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How do I take care of my baby sparrow?

My boyfriend dropped off a baby and asked me to take care of her?

  • I am 17 and a junior in highschool. I have lived with my boyfriend and his dad since I was 14. His dad died in November. I got emancipated and my boyfriend is 20 and he told me he had to go take care of some family things. So right at the start of the year he left. I have been living in his house all by myself since. His dad owned the house and now it's my boyfriend's. I hadn't seen my boyfriend since he left. We have talked a lot though, and he never told me explicitly what he is doing and what family things he has to take care of for 4 months. ANyways, he showed up on Monday with a baby girl. He asked if I could watch her for a while, like a couple of months. I was like what, whose baby is she? He said she was the baby of a girl he knows who can't take care of her. His name is on her birth certificate even though he says he isn't her dad. The baby is black and my boyfriend is white, so I sort of can believe this. He gave me three thousand dollars in 100 dollar bills, which is a red flag, so I started to get scared but he told me that if I didn't take care of the baby, I had to leave his house. I have nowhere else to go so I said ok. He said he will send me some more money later and he and I went and bought some baby stuff, which he paid for. So now I have three thousand dollars in cash, a baby that isn't related to me and a boyfriend with a sketchy story. He left this morning and said he'd "keep me up to date." I don't know where he goes or what he does. Every time I probe him about it he won't say. He just shuts up and tells me I don't need to know. I don't know what to do with the baby. I have been taking care of her all day and she's cute, she is about 5 months old, so I want to make sure she stays safe and if her mom really can't take care of her I want her to get into a safe place, but I don't think that's with me. But if I get rid of the baby in some way, I can't live here anymore and I really need this house. I have nowhere else to go. I don't even know if this is legal or what. So please help me.

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    I'm sure you have friends, call them and ask them if you can stay with them and help out around the house. Take the baby to Children and Family services and tell them all you know. This is sketchy and if I had a boyfriend like that I would dump him! You could be doing something terrible without even knowing it. For all you know he could be the baby's father, there are black people who are really black and the baby could still be really dark even with a white parent. I wouldn't take the chances of getting in trouble over this guy. Also don't tell him what you are doing and if you have a cell phone try to change the number or ditch it. This is very fishy and I don't want you or the baby to get hurt!! ADD: There are women shelters and places you can go. Don't think this is just something to not take seriously for all you know your life is in danger. Everyone has friends, you can't just be with your boyfriend and not have anyone else to talk to....

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1. Call the police & protective child services 2. Pack your stuff & go stay at a friends for a while 3. Leave him Something here is seriously wrong & you don't want to be caught in the middle of it . You could go to jail . That baby needs to be with someone that can take care of her properly . Get the hell away from him NOW .

Samantha Monroe

Your so-called boyfriend is NOT "seriously the only person i have in the whole world." Because you DON'T have him. He walked out on you a couple of months ago. He's out running around doing heaven knows what. And now he expects you to take over care of a child that is probably his. In exchange for room and board. What are you doing with that baby when you're in school? You CANNOT, you MUST NOT give up school to care for this child. Finishing your education is of utmost importance. Go to school and talk to a counselor there RIGHT AWAY. They will take the baby and give it proper care and help you find a place to stay.

RoofingPrincess

If you've seen the birth certificate then you would know who the mother of the baby is, try and contact the mother and if that fails the safety of the baby is more important than anything else, you will need to contact child services!

Lollipop Bop

ummm take the baby to child protection services and report both her and your boyfriend!!!

J

You could get into serious trouble. If he is mad at the mom and took he baby to be vindictive, YOU could go to jail for kidnapping. Take the $3000 and get yourself a new place to stay. Give the baby to child protective services and don't have anymore contact with this shady individual. I know that he is all that you have in the world, but you'll never find a decent man if you are hanging around with this guy and kidnapped baby. I'm really sorry your are going through this. It is a very heavy situation for someone that is so young to have to deal with. The best advise I can give you is to think with your mind and not your emotions. Emotions can lie to you and lead you in a very dangerous path.

In His Flock

This story doesn't make sense. I would check the website for missing children and make sure that baby isn't there and if she is you'd better call the police right away or your next home could be prison. And why would his name be on the birth certificate if it isn't his baby? Just because she appears to be black doesn't mean she isn't biracial. In the meantime, you need to get a job and move out of that house. You can do it, don't think you can't. Hope things get better for you.

Never mind

You need to tell him to tell you whats going on or call the cops NOW. You have no clue if this kid is kiddnaped or what the deal is going on.if the kid is kidnapped or something else is going on, YOU will be charged with accesory.Do you know how many years in PRISON you will get? dont be a ignorant.your boyfriend doesnt love you.people who love other people wouldnt do this. and if hisname is on the birth certificate, looks like thats his kid.doesnt matter if hes white, the momis obviously black.

H

Just because the baby is biracial does not mean the baby is not his....The mother could be black. I really think you need to call the police right now or you could end up with somewhere to live PRISON! Please think about this. Good Luck!

Melanie

Wow do you really wana be with a man that gives his girlfriend a 5 month old random kid? Er you should be very concerned! Phone the child protection/police! Sounds so shady!!!!

mimi

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