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Do you believe in spanking?

Do you believe bare bottom spanking is more effective, no difference or totally inappropriate?

  • I saw another Mom had posted a similar question and it surprisingly did not get much response.I would have thought there would have been a lot since spanking itself is so controversial. I am primarily interested in the thoughts of those parent who believe in spanking. But of course, anyone is free to speak up and they do. At one time this was not that unusual of a way to spank at all. I think it is much less so now. I want to know whether you think it works better than an over clothing spanking, makes no difference, is safer, less safe, is too humiliating, is appropriate, totally inapproriate, totally disgusting--whatever. I will give my thoughts later.

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    More Effective: Growing up I got it both pants up, and down. For me naturally down was way more effective. The key for a old fashioned spanking to work is the spanker's stress level. My parents didn't just over react and spank the tar out of us, it was more "this is the punishment for doing ________" very clear cut. My parents (mainly my dad) always looked sad, and in no way mad when I was to get a spanking. I always knew, doing them was never easy for him either. With our girls- We do use other "new age" methods first, but when they break down, or if my girls break one of our "core rules" pants come down, they go over the lap for a good old fashioned spanking. It has worked for generations, why fix something that's not broke. Spankings in our home are very rare, I think in part because when we do them, it's on the bare bottom. I can deal with the criticism better then I could deal with rotten children. My earlier question on this subject didn't get a lot of response because, when I posted it, for some reason it didn't show up until about 1 hour later (must have been some yahoo problem) then they placed it with the other questions that had already been posted for a hour. Questions seem to get most of their answers in the first hour or so. Needless to say, it was kind of pissing me off, but what can you do. Thank You for posting a similar question, at least this one got some responses. If I posted it again people would think I am some sort of weirdo, lol. EDIT: Wow just read all the answers, I knew most people would disagree with my stance, but the following quote "I question the integrity of anyone who feels empowered by the touch of their hand on the bare bottom of a child" lol, come on people, why do they always try and turn this into a sexual thing? Their your children for cryn out loud! you never gave your children a playful swat on the rear before? jeeeze. this is getting out of hand.

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Of course bare bottom spanking is more effective. They are going to actually feel it over having something protecting their bottom. Occassionally I bare bottom spank but rarely spank at all. It would have to be something that really called for it before I pull her pants down and spank her. To each their own as long as it is done with the mindset of not hurting the child to harm them.

bellas_mom2003

It is very innapropriate to beat/spank a child bare bottom or in any way for that matter. There are other forms of punishment.

stef

Cons: Underwear consumes 10% of the swat so it doesn't hurt as much. Also its more embarassing. Pros: You can determine how wel the child is responding so you know when to stop without hurting the child.

Alila

I believe in spanking after I have done all other punishments and time outs. Bare bottom spanking is inappropriate and humiliating.

roxanne

I don`t agree with it at all, I even consider it degrading.

sitwithus

I grew up without being spanked. I graduated with honors and a college scholarship, supported myself once I graduated, married, and had a baby. I obviously grew up great without having physical discipline. Once I hopped on the internet and read about what other parents do-spank-I was floored that many think that if a kid isn't spanked they will turn out to be a spoiled brat. I'm not and my son isn't either. He doesn't get everything he wants, you can ask anyone that his room is full of educational toys and books, maybe a few annoying battery operated thingamabobs but that's it! I do practice attachment parenting, this is what a doctor has to say about spanking and I do agree SPANKING DOESN'T WORK Many studies show the futility of spanking as a disciplinary technique, but none show its usefulness. In the past thirty years in pediatric practice, we have observed thousands of families who have tried spanking and found it doesn't work. Our general impression is that parents spank less as their experience increases. Spanking doesn't work for the child, for the parents, or for society. Spanking does not promote good behavior, it creates a distance between parent and child, and it contributes to a violent society. Parents who rely on punishment as their primary mode of discipline don't grow in their knowledge of their child. It keeps them from creating better alternatives, which would help them to know their child and build a better relationship. In the process of raising our own eight children, we have also concluded that spanking doesn't work. We found ourselves spanking less and less as our experience and the number of children increased. In our home, we have programmed ourselves against spanking and are committed to creating an attitude within our children, and an atmosphere within our home, that renders spanking unnecessary. Since spanking is not an option, we have been forced to come up with better alternatives. This has not only made us better parents, but in the long run we believe it has created more sensitive and well-behaved children.

me

I was always spanked on my bare bottom and I didn't and don't see why it's supposed to be some big awful deal. Parents see their kids' butts at other times, it's pretty much unavoidable when you live in a house with other people (and the smaller the house and the larger the family, the more unavoidable it becomes.) The point of a spanking is to deliver pain to a particular area of the body. Clothes get in the way. I don't see why bare bottom spanking is any more of an controversial issue than bare bottom bathing!

Mr. Denny

I think it is totally inappropriate. And as the child learns more about his body and privacy, it will become quite humiliating. I'm a childcare provider so of course I'm not allowed to spank, but I don't think a swat on the butt through clothes is any big deal. I plan on spanking my own children, but only with an open palm.

missmannah

Highly effective. In fact I am an advocate of hands are fvor hugging so use a neutral object (spoon brush paddle etc) and make it sting like heck so the kid does not forget it. Corner time after works well too. Always forgive after that however and clean the slate.

Ben R

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