How can you get a cruise job (kitchen) if you're in the Philippines?

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• me and this guy met on a cruise. we had sex twice, and acted like bf and gf. on the cruise he called me his gf, and if i lived in maryland he said that i would be his gf. after the cruise he contacted me right away on myspace. we didnt talk constantly..but after awhile he wasnt contacting me and i got nervous. i wrote him a message on myspace basicallysaying that if he doesnt write back, he doesnt want any part of me..and he wrote back. i surprised visited him a few months after the cruise, he was real happy. we were only there for about 20 minutes. between the cruise and college we saw eachother twice, once the surprise visit, and the other time we hung out and talked the entire time..no sex. after that visit, he textedme right after saying "thanks for coming..cant wait to see you again"..i told him i was glad that we got to talk and he said "i would never use you" later on i said i was going to bed and i told him to have fun and he said "all my fun left at 12"...which is when i left. two days later he texts me and were talking about him coming to ny to visit me and we could go to the city..and he said"way rather see you then the city"..the third time we were supposed to hang out , he messed up plans...and i was down near where he lived andstaying at a hotel. he called me and got a cab and told me he was coming to see me..and it doesnt matter how much it costs he just wanted to see me..but i told him he messed up plans in the first place, and it was too late so there was no point in coming. 5 days later, he called me and apologized for when he messed up plans. he said "lets keep this long distance relationship going". this past august, i came to college near where he lives, a whole year since the cruise. we had kept in contact for one year..and now were 15 minutes away. weve hung out 6 times since ive been here. the first time he just stopped by with his friend and his friend saidthat the guy i like wanted to see his girl..meaning me. we didnt have sex, we just talked. he texted me after the visit and said it was nice seeing u tonight. i told him i was sorry he didnt stay longer and he said he would have loved to, but he didnt want my suitemates to hate him for being there so late when we have classes the next day. and he said "just wanted to see you." the second time he came to visit he came to lay with me. we layed together and talked the whole time, and then did stuff, but no sex. i asked him why things happen sexually between us and he said because i like you and you like me. and i said as more than a friend?and he was like..yeah i like you as more than a friend. and i said..so u didnt come here for sex..and he said..i didnt even bring a condom so i didnt even have intentions..and we didnt have sex. he was a little offended because he said "why do you have to make me out to be such an asshole." the next time we hung out we just layed and talked with eachother..no sex. i went over there, and it took me awhile to get thereand he called me 4 TIMES..to make sure i wasnt lying to him..and was really coming. he even offered to pay for my cab, and drove me home the next day and then the 4th time we layed together and talked again..no sex. the 5th time we hung out..we actually did have sex..and it was real intimate, and he went and slept on the couch after? which hes NEVER done before. the next day he put the song "look after you" by the fray. the 6th time we hung out he got high, drank, and popped pills. he wasnt himself..he was avoiding me. i asked him what was going on and he said he wasnt mad at me. and i said..well why are you avoiding me..and he said i wasnt. i said..listen do you like me and he said..of course i do..its obvious i do. and he said..i just dont want a gf right now..and i think you ask a lot of questions. i said well why did we have sex the other night..and he was like idk. he was so confused and so out of it.so he leaves and i get a text from his friend pretending to be the guy i like saying..i had to leave cause i think youre friend is hott.i called..and the friend answered and was like..we just hooked up..i want your friend. and they came back and the guy i like was like i didnt say any of that..that wasnt me. so the guy i like was like lets talk in the kitchen..and the friend follows us? and the friend got involved and pulled me aside and was like..listen he told me the gist..youre friends..he likes hanging out with you..but he doesnt want a relationship..u hooked up on the cruise what did u think it was ? then later i get a text from the guy i likes phone and his friend is texting me saying..the guy you like is passed out..but he likes your friend..can she hang right now? im awake..send the digits over but dont tell him i was on his phone. ps. the guy i like was in a 5 year relationship with a girl who cheated on him and got pregnant with another guys kid. he says he "knows how girls are" did he like me as more than a friend?

• Answer:

  You are asking us to tell you what the feelings are of some one we have never met and we can not do that. I would suggest, if he had just had a nasty experience when you met on the ship, he may have found you a little bit too forward too soon on the cruise and is bothered about you using him for sex. Perhaps his friend and he are testing you? May be he does feel a lot for you and is scared of being hurt again which is why he is restraining himself and bringing a friend along. 00