How do salesman handle objections?

How to handle family issues?

• I am 38 years old married person with two daughters.i am working in a company as manager operations. My father was salesman in bata and he was the sole earner for the family.we were two brothers and one sister. i was the eldest one. My childhood was troubled one as my parents used to always fight. we did not like our father to be at home even on sunday.my parents were selfish as they could not think beyond themselves. i was good at studies.my father took transfer from the place citing reason of home sickness. my all friends joined IITs. but i lost interest in studies because the place where we went was poor in studies. Then i was forced to join defence forces at the age of 17 where as i wanted to go for higher studies. but one way it was ok as i was away from their fighting problems. slowly i accepted my fate and i started achieving my goals without anybodies help. My two younger brother and sisters were brought up by them but they did not bother for their future. I used to send their fee and i bore the cost of sisters marriage and brothers studies. then suddenly i found that my brother and sister they also do not like even i use to come for two months leave. i came to know that my parents are blaming me for all the problems even after absence from home. after my marriage we used to go for two months to our home. then they started blaming my wife. but we adjusted and things were moving . things changed after my brothers marriage. during that time i was getting retired from navy but my father wanted me to handle everything of brother's marriage. but resettlement was my priority. i was blamed that my father in law is influencing me. i reduced my holidays to home due to new job. my father in law blamed me for not sending her daughter to home. my brother stopped talking to me. i even apologise to him for any mistake. he did not say any thing. after repeated attempts even his wife did not talk to us. this humiliation i could not take and i stopped contacting them. suddenly i found that my brother's wife wants to talk to us. but now i am not interested. for that i was scolded by my father. suggest me how to handle this issue. it is putting stress on me

• Answer:

  hi, after all it is family all these things happen forgive n just talk. no harm can be done if u talk. we are all social beings and we need people. talk and be nice but always be a little careful. make yourself clear when the situation arises to your family member. the following are my thoughts on the issue: 1. If there is a family there are bound to be fights 2. it ok to fight even for small things but we must remember to come back together. 3. Also each of us should respect each others individuality, privacy and independence. once we have a family of our own we should be free to choose what is best for our family. ofcourse father, brother etc etc are important but they have a family of their own just like you so they take care of theirs and you take care of yours. but saying all this in india we are not as nuclear as the west so you need to also show them you care and love them but without hurting yourself. 4. you can only tell and explain but cannot make them think or behave in a particular way. wat they think and do is upto them. So just change your attitude. cos the only power u have is to change yourself. 5. Dont get angry, dont fight and dont argue. if you know what you are doing for you and your family is not hurting anyone and if it is right then just explain calmly with patience and if they should they will understand if not you can never do anything about it. thats life.....Patience....life is never a tragedy if only you remember to look at it differently and laugh at it. Good luck!!!