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  • Okay, so I had to go to an endocrinologist on the 7th of October because my doctor said my cortisol level was elevated. The endocrinologist said they are going to check my cortisol, prolactin and testosterone levels because they were all 3 elevated. And he also said that the odds of me having polycystic ovary syndrome are very high. He also said that because of those 3 levels being elevated can cause low fertility rate. I've had my heart set on starting a family with my husband since March of 2008, and we've been trying since then with no prevail. He even mentioned fertility drugs, which means he's probably pretty sure. I'm not sure how to cope with this, especially considering my husband is in the navy and he's currently on patrol, even when I found out. All my mom said to me was I'm sorry and for me to get her a chocolate milkshake on my way near her house. I've been crying at the littlest thing since I found out. I'm not sure how to cope with the possibility of not being able to have a baby, and how to cope if I find out for sure that I will have infertility issues or a low chance to even get pregnant. Please help me, this is something I've been wanting for 3 years, and me and my husband have been wanting, ever missed period and pregnancy test has been hard, and even the last couple of times he took it hard. Any suggestions would be appreciated, and please nothing sarcastic. If you do get sarcastic I will report you to yahoo - this is a serious matter to me, and I don't know anyone who has dealt with it themselves.

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    I understand how difficult it is to think there's a possibility of not being able to conceive when you want it more than anything in the world. My situation differs some but gives a similar feeling. My boyfriend and I had our son in 1998. Two years later we started trying to have another. After a couple years went to dr after dr, ran test after test with no reason for infertility. I thought I had some kind of hormone issue but due to my age of 22 every dr said that wouldn't be it and never even checked. Finally, we got pregnant in 2005 only to miscarry. It was completely devastating to think we were finally gonna get what we had wanted for so long, then have it ripped from our hearts. I still mourn the loss of that baby every day. The only thing that helped was we started trying immediately afterwards and after 7 months we conceived again. We now have a beautiful 2 year old daughter. When she was 3 months old we started trying again with no luck. I finally found a dr who thinks I have PCOS and this could the issue. He told me he can give me medication for it and that will help with the infertility. I have not started it yet because I was about 60 lbs overweight, so we are working on that 1st, then I will start medication. None of the drs I went to before said anything about weight being a possible issue with fertility, but from my research it can be. When we conceived the 2nd time (the miscarriage), i had just lost 18 lbs. I don't know if this is an issue for you, but if so, you might try that. Also, know that 1 drs opinion is not always right. If possible get a 2nd and 3rd, 4th, 5th if you have to until you find a dr who can at least show some optimism and be willing to try to figure out a way. Like this new dr I am seeing thinks the PCOS medication and losing weight will increase my chances. And remember, no matter what the odds are, there's always a chance for anything if you have hope. Do a search and get on some forums to talk with other people going through similar situations, you might just find someone who found something that worked and maybe it will work for you too. I would try to get the hormone issue under control before trying to conceive though, because I truly believe this contributed to our miscarriage and if I had only known we never would have gotten pregnant until it was safe. I am so sorry you have to feel alone in this, I know that doesn't make it any easier. Just keep the hope and don't give up. Best of luck.

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Hi i can relate some what. My husband and I have TTC for 4 years. After we were married we decided that perhaps we should get checked out as it had been two years and still no little miracle. And sure enough it was spotted that hubby had a very low sperm count and motility, and we were given a 4% chance of conceiving naturally. So we endured tests and began our journey through IVF. After one cancelled cycle, two full cycles, two embryo transfers & one IUI the Dr has suggested that maybe we consider egg donor why you say. Because the problem with my hubby was just the beginning and now in a confused state the Dr can only say 'your body responds to that of a 40yr old." (im 26) I had little response to stimulating drugs, resulting in limited egg retrieval and then to top it off very standard quality embryos. As we hadn't any family or friends offering donations we have begun a natural treatment consisting of herbs & acupuncture. The whole thing is scary and until the day you and I have our little miracle in our arms we will experience days where other people's miracle stories will inspire us and other days they will cut through our hearts like a knife. I ran on adrenaline, disbelief and surrealness in the 1st year and a half of our infertility and I rarely cried and just got grumpy alot. Now some days I cry and I just can't stop, I have counted in one crying session i cried for 5 hours non stop. But I and my husband will not give up because we deserve a little miracle just as much as others and more than some, as you do. Some days I just have to give into the emotions and let it all pour out and other days when I'm not so bleak I just go. I dont know how sometimes I feel like a robot (an emotional robot - cry, no stop now you have to go to work, cry oopps stop someone is coming etc). You meantioned your mum disregarding your heartache, I'm all but too familiar with that too - family, friends and strangers it sucks, some of the things that come out of people's mouths are very insensitive so just be wary with whom you share your journey with. Until next time please take care. You are more than welcome to email me. Empty Arms

Please don't give up hope. I know many women who have PCOS, and have successfully became pregnant and have had children. Try not to be so stressed about it and go day by day and take your doctors advice and maybe if you feel better get a second opinion. That was rude for your mom to say. But keep holding on to hope, and you will hopefully hold your little bundle of joy very soon. Lots of luck

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