How do I gain control of my life?

How to gain control of my weight and my life?

• before you start to judge let me tell you of my situation. I am an African American male who is 5'11 and weighs in at an awful 317 pounds. And here it the worse thing I am only 19 if I were to keep gaining weight I would be dead before I hit 30. And this is what makes it all worse I live in a small town with no gym also my neighborhood is under construction so it is near impossible to run on the streets. Right now in my life I am about as athletic and flexible as a 50 year old. I feel like a failure right now in my life as it is. I have no job right now I am currently looking for one. I have no means of transportation cause no one would teach me how to drive. I stay home all day cause my mother and my step dad goes out and party all day on the weekend and work all day on the weekday. The only good news is that I just go accepted in a college and I am waiting for that to come around. I am basically stuck here at home missing out on life watching T.V and gaining weight. Everyday when I look in the mirror and see the kind of person that I have become it makes me feel like crap. I have huge man boobs an extended gut and massive thunder thighs what isn't there to hate. For crying out loud I wear a size 44-46 in pants. I have gotten ridiculous. I am tired of people talking about me telling me how I am a failure and how I look like the Nutty Professor. I just want to be healthy and have a job go to school and have some friends. Right now in my life I am/have none of these things. The anger that I held deep within me is beginning to rise up more and is effecting my attitude. I am on a destructive path and I know it. But I am also in a battle that I will never win. I mean I have tried to diet plenty of times, I have tried to get someone to teach me how to drive before. As well as looking for a job for months. I wanna meet girls and laugh with friends. I wanna have a job that I can go to and come back home knowing I did a good job a work. I wanna look like I am worth something and want people to call be by my name and not big man or fat boy. Right now in my life I don't know what to do. I don't want this to be my life.

• Answer:

  Hi, Wow, right now I am just going to tell you it will not be easy for you to lose weight. It souds like your parents are really no help to you so you will need to take maters into your own hand becasue your an adult now son you are. I think the best thing for you is to maybe start by just walking everyday it is honestly a good way to loose weight. Another idea to help you out is maybe buy a cheap olipticle machine to walk and eventually run on. I know this is going to hurt but your BMI is 41.1. That is of the charts to even be considered overweight you will need to lose about 130 pounds that is like losing a person. I want you to take controll and those are the first steps to doing it.