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How do you become emotionally healthy?

How to not become emotionally attached ?

  • Okay so, i wont lie, im quite soft, i often get quite emotionally attached to girls i date and stuff. So when it comes to the break up time, it really really gets me down. Its so annoying,its like, i have SUPEr high days, but ultra low days too. I also become emotionally attached really fast, like too fast, and its not good, it gets in the way and ruins things. Anyway i can become a bit more like a brick wall?

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    Females usually get attached faster. I am of the 'reserved at first, then warm up' camp personally. I've been hurt, so I choose not to trust a person until they've proven they are trustworthy (there's no specific thing they have to do, I just have to feel comfortable). It makes perfect sense that you try to get close to people quickly when you don't have many people you can depend on - you're searching for companionship. Just make sure you're not pushing people away because of your efforts to draw them in.

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It makes you human to become emotionally attatched. Don't change it. All you need to change is the type of girl you date so that she likes you just as much as you like her edit: like i said, it's just in your nature. don't try to be someone you're not. one day a girl will appreciate it

I wish i could attach like you. I can only attach myself to very few specific people and most others i see as nothing. Your lucky to be able to attach so easily.

I am (was) a person whose ongoing patterns of interaction reflected "preoccupied attachment." I read up on theories of its causes, reflected on my own childhood, and corrected my irrational thoughts. One method I used to correct my irrational thoughts is the Lefkoe method. I have attached a file which explains this method. I should note: the particular belief described in the attachment is about a fear of public speaking; however, the Lefkoe method works for any irrational belief-- so don't let the subject matter dealt with in the article lead you to believe that it does not apply to your current/ my past situation.

Get a dog youll rely more on the dog and if u train it more it wont leve u i have a dog that when ever i feel like **** he tuns to me and licks my face and hops on my lap and just makes me forget everything try that or stay away from dating and when u date just be more cautious!

Oh,oh.poor you.next time,always prepare ya mind for the worst,think negatively in expectations ahead of any actions of yours'.don't take anything u engage in seriously in mind.lucky u,ya expectations might turn out to be positive ,which'll now stand as a supprize package to u.ah.

Day killer has it right. We have emotions for a reason, if we didn't we'd all just be a bunch of narcissists. I do the same thing except not in a sexual way, I tend to care for people very much in a very short period of time, and the only way I can not care about someone I know is if they are a complete @sshole.

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