What are ways to become more socially aware and better understand why people react to you in negative ways?
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For example, a previously close relationship has gotten colder over the past month or two, or you'd like to become closer friends but discover the other person isn't interested. What are some ways you can close the loop in terms of figuring out why the other person doesn't want a closer relationship with you? Or how do you read others to understand what they are/aren't looking for? It seems the standard socially acceptable reaction is to "not care what others think about you", or assume the other person has reasons unrelated to anything you did, or try to make guesses. I used these approaches, but as a result never really got better at understanding others, and still find myself often surprised by people's reactions to me (both positive and negative) - either friends or colleagues. I hesitate to ask people directly because the question always seems awkward and somewhat desperate, and if I was the one being asked I would find it difficult to tell the truth a lot of the time.
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Answer:
If they don't want to be friends with you, then just be yourself until they decide you are someone they want to be friends with. Don't change who you are to be friend with someone, unless they give criticism that you agree with. If you have to conform to their commands for them to consider you a friend, then you aren't a real friend to them, just someone who obeys.
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I would try paying close attention to the way you express yourself, your word choice and the tone of your words. Sometimes what you are saying could be found offensive to the other person even though that was not your intention. Being self aware is having some knowledge about who is around you and what is socially "acceptable" in that circle of friends/family. Then using that to your advantage. You can try thinking about what you say before you say it, and putting yourself in other people's shoes and imagining how they would interpret your words. Hope this helps!
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