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Facebook problem with friend requests

  • Facebook frustration. I am extremely new to Facebook, and got a friend request notification by email. However I see no such person in my Facebook account. This is the email I got: Steve added you as a friend on Facebook. We need you to confirm that you are, in fact, friends with Steve. To confirm this friend request, follow the link below: http://www.facebook.com/reqs.php Thanks, The Facebook Team Phish URLs are obvious, and this is not one. I went to the link, and it just redirects to http://www.facebook.com/home.php? There's no friend activity listed. Their help pages, under: "I got an email saying I have a pending friend request, but I don't see one." have the unhelpful answer "Don't let this friendship opportunity slip away! Just send the other person a friend request from your account. Alternatively, you could ask them to request you as a friend again." What a crock... why is it my job to find them when they just notified me? And yes it may be a spammer, and in the grand scheme of things, this is a non-issue, but it does concern me if I have a Facebook profile and Facebook is broken.

  • Answer:

    If you have an account, you should be able to login, and see your pending friend requests in the top right hand corner. I imagine "Steve" was a spammer whose account got deleted before you responded to his request. Most friends request e-mails come with a first and last name.

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There is a way, I think, to cancel a pending friend request (not going to test it right now though) As far as I can tell, there is not; I went and looked at some pending friend requets, and there's no way to cancel it.

ThePinkSuperhero

Facebook isn't broken. If you don't have account: You need to register for a new account using the email address where you received the friend request, and it'll then show up. If you do have an account: search for that friend, and add him.

ewiar

reqs.php redirects to home.php if you have no pending requests. Maybe he deleted the friend request (if that's possible), or it was a spammer and all the requests were deleted.

smackfu

search for that friend, and add him. The problem is that this is a very common surname and I don't even know where to begin finding him. The person may be legit and someone I dimly remember, but this means I have to weed through 100+ similarly named people. So the friend request apparently is not very helpful.

chef_boyardee

Also, friendships in Facebook are exclusively two-way. He cannot actually add you as a friend without your consent. So in that sense, the email is a bit misleading.

smackfu

I've experienced this before (I was the sender of the request). The only way I solved it was by having them find and add me.

Meagan

I'll weigh in on the consensus side. Steve was either a spammer or deleted his account. You've done nothign wrong and there's nothing to find. FWIW, spam and such are much more rare on Facebook than on myspace and other networks, so this shouldn't be a problem that you'll see frequently.

chrisamiller

I also suspect spammer, and that their account (and thus the request) was deleted. There is a way, I think, to cancel a pending friend request (not going to test it right now though) but unless someone "Friended" you by mistake thinking you are someone else, I can't imagine it would get used much. Anyway, I wouldn't worry about it. Unfortunately as Facebook has opened itself up to everyone and their cousin, I've seen the number of spam/promotional "friendship" requests go way up -- I now get several of them a week. I don't even bother to login and check requests coming from people I don't know.

Kadin2048

From the "friends" help topic Is there a way to cancel a friend request? There is no way to cancel a friend request once it has been made.

jourman2

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