How do you handle someone who is so socially off?

Social Dynamics: How do you handle someone who is verbally arrogant, aggressive and abusive when you know deep down that they have your best interests at heart?

• I thought that the question would have ended in this; but it didn't. Now there's both.

• Answer:

  You cannot know that someone has your best interest at heart. You cannot look into someone's head. They might tell you that they do. This is not proof that they actually do. People can only show you in their behavior towards you. Behavior that is normally associated with looking after another's best interests: respectful feedback on the other's behavior, seeking a relationship that is based on equality, kindness, clarity and honesty. Even when the stakes are high, separating what you need to own up to and what the other needs to own up to. This happens through communication that addresses any issues but is not played "on the (wo)man". Verbally arrogant, aggressive and abusive behavior does not make the grade against that yardstick.