How do you start to become emotionally stronger?

As the great Kelly Clarkson would say in her current hit song- "What doesn't kill you makes you stronger." So stay strong :) The way to stay strong is to look at the positives of your life and set goals and tell yourself this is what I am capable of and this is what I want to get done in life. Make your goals realistic and once you begin reaching these goals you will find yourself stronger as a person. If you feel your going to be in a negative situation that brings negative emotions then just remove yourself from the situation till you can say to yourself your ready to deal with the situation at hand. I say good luck.

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They say that Knowledge is Power... Understanding your emotions is the key to gaining power over them. I'm a mental health professional. I'm also not a weird person who is going to give you all sorts of technical advice when you need some real talk. This might sound ridiculous, but keep a journal or written/typed record of how you are feeling in a particular day. I do it ALL of the time. I consider myself a very emotional person. I'm wired in a strange way and it is so easy for me to fly off the handle in either the positive or negative direction. When I am happy, I'm ecstatic. When I am sad, I'm depressed. This comes to play in my relationships and I have a hard time finding stability. The journal is the only thing that helps me. Often times I find myself wanting to say something to her or start a conversation about something ridiculous - but I choose to journal it instead. The next day when I come back to read it, I'm 99.9% of the time very happy that I chose not to send it. You also have to understand that people aren't wired the way we are. My current girlfriend and I have been together for years but our relationship has been through hell and back. She's not the communicator and she doesn't understand how to communicate with me emotionally. It's very frustrating. But I suppose you have to come to terms with the fact that not everyone is going to be wired the way we want them to be. Best of luck, man.

Ak-47, She has to think long and hard wheather she is spreading her self too thin, relationships are complicated enough w/o the distance that their going to be putting between themselves and her boy friend sounds to me to be a little needy and with all she's getting involved with at school can she handle a boy friend that only tells her how much worse he has it than her, it sounds a little selfish to me the way you are there for her is wonderful and Yes i can tell how proud of her. I think she has some serious decisions to make in her life, I'm kind of worried about her holding her feelings in because she has a lot on her plate which may lead to a melt down, really all you can do is be there for her when she needs you. I wish You and Her all the best of luck. Rita

AK Through experience I've learned that it's through suffering grief and emotional unhappiness, our minds build up "emotional anti-bodies", making us stronger. It's part of the survival mechanism that is part of our brains. It happens naturally and works over a period of time. Forget the "self-help"books or "quick cure" advice. From one who suffers chronic physical pain, I've found my brain gradually pushes the pain onto a "sidetrack" somewhere in our neurons. After a period of time, there are periods when you forget the pain...or it becomes more bearable as time passes. This is all part of the same system. It's a survival aspect ingrained in us. For most of man's time on earth, there were no "pain pills" to take. When emotional hurt is new, it can feel like the end of the world, but give it time. Your brain has only one function...Your Survival. Take it from one who's been down that trail many times YF Gene.