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How to do the baby freeze move?

Baby's father wants different things than I do! Should we just move on? How?

  • I'm 9 months pregnant now and he is 21 and I am 20 yrs. Old. We've together for 3 yrs. But I broke up with him because he told me he didn't want to move in with me. Before I became pregnant things were great and he would tell me he wanted a baby. When it came to it he got really scared and upset saying " we were too young & he wanted to go for his BA. We also wanted to get married first but I became pregnant and things changed. He became distant, quiet, always worried about trying to get $ but he wasn't there for me it was more like he was but he wasn't! At first he said he did want to move in but than I noticed nothing was happening & I told him he kept saying things he didn't mean. So I told him to be real with me & he said he would do everything for me but he doesn't want to move in together! I asked him why? he said he is not sure but doesn't feel it and he doesn't want to leave his family yet and grow up that he wants things the way they used to be. He said he'll eventually do it but he wants finish school & get more $. I feel so alone I don't understand why he cant just do all that with me! I refuse to be with him if he is not going to live with me. I think it's so mest up that he gets to come around whenever he feels like it & I wait and see if he will ever commit and make us his first priority. We want to stay together but we both won't change our minds about what we want to make us happy. He said he will be here whenever I need him but I don't see him excited about all this he seems like whatever I have to do this. He is a nice guy & he said he will try to be the best father to our baby. It's really hard for both us to go our seperate ways he says he rather lose me now than later. Now that we broke up he is always checking up on me & asking for the baby. I know he cares but I'm so sad he doesn't want more. What can we do? Its so hard because he is always going to be there it would be so much easier if he wasn't in my life and we can both move on.

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    Stop feeling sad. Your situation sucks, but he chose to have unprotected sex with you numerous times. Just have the baby and go after him through the court system for child support and in time, you'll find someone else who will love you and your child and be a real man. Your ex needs to grow up and unfortunately, I don't think that'll happen anytime soon.

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that really sucks! why dont you post it on why my life sucks. am sure you'hd get a lot of sucked up votes and comments over there. :)

if his in anyway decent he will always be in ur life if only for the babys sake. if ur not happy then maybe a break is whats needed if after a while things r still not working maybe then just call it a day . if its gonna work it will if not just do whats right for the lilone

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if he is going though school i can understand why he is concerned about money, it will be much cheaper living with his family than it will be trying to find the cash to pay rent on a place. and to be honest i can totally understand him not wanting to move into your family home, its a lot to adjust to some else's family. unfortunately for him he needs to to grow up wether he wants to or not he is 21 and he is about to be a father, he will have to grow up wether he wants to live with you or not. you need to come to agreements about things now. do you want him there for the birth? i think its important that you do not make spending time with his child a bargaining tool, set up a regular visiting schedule and if he chooses not to turn up that is his loss. i also think its important that he gets a chance to see his baby soon after it is born, eg dont let the world and its wife come to the hospital but barr him that would be really unfair. sit down with him and come to an agreement, you need to agree before the birth. will you give him a daily update? or will you just text him if anything big happens the birth. do you want him there? will you be ringing him when you go into labor, will he have regular phone calls during the labor off your bitht partner after he birth. how soon can he come and visit the baby? what will be his visiting schedule, p.s. its important that he understands that if you are not in a relationship with him visiting baby does not mean he has a right to check up on you and what your love life is doing.

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