How do I help my best friend get motivated and stop acting lazy and stupid. Please someone Help!!?

continue to pray for her, help her but dont be babysitter all the time cuz she is going to need to learn how to take care of her own child. she's still very young so that age thing and now having to take care of someone else on top of any hormonal offsets is goin cause the whole depression thing. but continue to be there for her and encourage her. when she gets a job, tell her how to stick to it. it sounds like ur annoyed and frustrated with her however, so you might want to ask yourself as well, if you still want to be her friend. if so u let all of that frustration subside, keep it to a vent blog and stand strong for your friend. she'll get it eventually but you cant force it. that could cause your frustration as well, just relax. she'll figure it out one way or another, just pray for her sake, it's not a harder route than necessary. keep ya head up.

Ask family and friends for support. Constantly encourage her to become a better person, and provide motivation. Don't talk negatively around her; always be in a positive mood, and don't be afraid to tell her the truth without hurting her feelings. Keep it up. Don't give up. I believe in you.

Try some counseling groups or birthing classes. Try getting her family involved. Have some one who has had it rough raising a child talk with her. Or get one of those mechanic babies that high schoolers have to care for so that she can get the real feel of having a baby.

your friend needs to see a councelor and be placed on anti depressants and counceling. other wise i might be afraid some thing bad will happen to her baby due to severe post partum depression. she needs to take very good care of herself through pregnancy as well or there might be bad reprecussions to the baby when its born.

you really sound like a great friend, however, it seems like your firiend is alittle lazy, or perhaps, so is just acting how she seen it as a child. Children learn what they see, so perhaps her mother was lazy, and didnt do much either. You really cant make someone do something they dont want to, all you can do is be there to help her, guide her, and be her friend. You cant change someone. It has to be done by themself. Offer to be her support person, go to the appointments, arrange to be there for the birth. Once you have set this up, get her active, go walking, shopping together, eat healthy together. Offer her information about services in your town. Anything you do will be helpful, even if she doesnt show it, she means well. Good luck, i know its hard to bite your tongue.

i dont think shes lazy, she has mental problems and this just compounds it, depression is a major problem which keeps people from getting out of a funk. she needs a doctor quick. stop doing things to help her, you are an enabler, a crutch, make her seek real help. praying does no help, thats foolish, she needs to have her brain chemicals in balance. she should have aborted the child, at least she should give it away, she cant deal with it at all. where is her family?

pray for her. let her help yourself. don,t let her depend on you like if she ask you to do a favor, tell her you believe she can do it herself. when she will have her child, the baby might be the one who would motivate her to make a living.

I think the best thing you can do for her is to stop DOING. Let her take some responsiblity and do stuff for herself. She's going to be very busy soon with this baby, unless you want to take care of that for her too. She really needs to wake up. If she's so lazy, how did she get pregnant in the first place? She had to have some energy somewhere. Seems like it's an excuse for her to live off of other people.

Wow, you sound like a bit of a jerk about your friend calling her lazy, stupid and retarded. I'm glad I don't have friends like you. She's probably suffering from some sort of mental problem like anxiety or depression. Tell her to get into some kind of counselling or something. People who are ill have to try much much more than you do to do something as simple as get dressed in the morning or leave the safety of their bedroom. Please try and develop some kind of compassion for your fellow wo/man.