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I did something really bad and now i need help please help me.

I did something bad and need your help! Please!?

  • My boyfriend and I have been together over 3 years now. He still lives with his parents and I live with my roommate which we have a year contract together. He has a history of drinking and was in AA when we first got together. He proposed May 2007 and we were suppose 2 get married May 2008, but he didn't help pay for anything or seem interested so I gave the ring back. We got back together and he ended up with another DUI May 5 2008. I bailed him out of jail at 3am and have stuck by him through all of his classes. I ended up finding out that I was pregnant last month and talked to him about everything. We discussed abortion and at first he was upset and then didn't say anything. He didn't seem happy or say anything positive really. I am in the RN program, we aren't married, I live with roommate and he lives with his parents. I went last Monday to have it done and couldn't do it then I ended up goin back last Thursday and going through with it, which he knew I was going and never said anything. Well last Friday he ended up saying that he couldn't be with me right now. Sunday he said that he never thought he could see himself with somebody that would do that, but he never told me until after the abortion! He still comes around and calls me. Do you think he still loves me and we can get over this? I mean he is still hanging around! I really love him and know we can make it work if we put God first! Please help....and please no negative answers. I feel bd enough about what I did!

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    I am sorry to say this, but you really are better off without him than you were with him. He really sounds like a manipulative and sick guy. As far as the abortion, please lighten up on yourself. You made the decision you felt was right, and no one has the right to attack you for it.

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I think that if he can not respect your wishes you really don't want to stick with the guy, besides his behavior is horrible and even I would not stay with a guy like that. I think you did what was right for you, and he needs to grow up.

Ethel

I couldn't hold it... YOU SHOULD FEEL BAD AND I HOPE THAT HE DOESN"T GET BACK WITH YOU!! It was his bad for not telling you before you went & KILLED his baby but no judgement...

Veronica B

it is true ALL THINGS are possible with God, pray and forgive yourself, get Godly counseling,and make time to heal,then move on with your life , ive alredy prayed for you both ,God bless u

Kamaka

Okay, you say that you love him right? Well, would you really love a guy that is like that? He could be just a crush you know. Think about a person that would act like that but don't think of his face. How do you feel? What I would do is find someone else to like/love. And always remember this: You never get over a crush until you find a new one. And about the abortion, if he really loved you, he would've stayed with you. Through thick and thin.

Cristina

Abortion should not be used as a form of birth control. Try to be a little more responsible and THINK ABOUT THE CONSEQUENSES of having sex to begin with. And if i were you i wouldnt be having unprotected sex. To answer your question, I think you should try to talk to him and explain that you were very confused and it was a very traumatic thing for you and apologize to him because that was his kid too. Honestly, i think if he loves you he would understand unless you went behind his back and did it or something. Also if he still comes around and calls you that may be a sign he still loves you and cares for you. I think you should give him a little time and explain to him that you were scared and didnt know what to do.

Jessica =]

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