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Is there a way to find out who keeps calling Social Services on me?

  • Before I go any further, I want to say that there is nothing wrong with my son's quality of life. He lives with both his parents, who maintain jobs and education, in a nice, clean, warm house and he is always fed, changed and clean. He is not neglected, abused or mistreated in ANY way. To the point, someone has phoned Social Services on me and my fiancee 4 times, to be exact, accusing us of not feeding our son, not cleaning him and keeping him in the same clothes all the time and (this is the best one) making him sleep in the rabbit hutch, outside. Like I said, he is well looked after, me and my fiancee are wonderful parents and we would never, ever hurt him in any way. Anyway, because of the number of calls, Social Services are now monitoring us, someone has to visit our house for 4 hours a day and they have gotten in contact with our child minder and she now has to fill out a a report, twice a week about us and our son. Frankly, I find it disgusting that someone is doing this and there are a number of people that it could be that keeps calling them. My biggest suspects are: -My mum (I won't allow her to see my son because she threw me out and tried to purposely cause me to have a miscarriage multiple times); -My fiancee's sister (she's convinced that I deliberately got pregnant so that my fiancee wouldn't leave me) -One of my teachers (I reported her for telling the other teachers that I'd apparently slept with both of her sons and her nephew, not true, by the way, and she then proceeded to phone my fiancee multiple times and told him this also, just to add, my fiancee is bipolar and has mild paranoid schizophrenia, the woman is INSANE). I have also explained this to Social Services and I understand that they're just doing their job but these past few weeks have honestly been horrible, people are saying things about me and my fiancee, it's putting a bit of a strain on our relationship and all of this is affecting my grades which are crucial at the moment seeing as I'm leaving school in 3 months. Is there any way at all to find out who is doing this to us? I know about the whole confidentiality thing but this is beyond a joke, who ever's doing this isn't just messing with my life, they're messing with my fiancee health, our education and performance at our jobs and people's opinions of us. Any advice is appreciated, thank you.

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    I can't even imagine how hurt you and your fiancee are that someone is doing this, however, I'd just be focusing on getting the message to Social Services that your child is loved and cared for with the utmost love and respect. You aren't going to get anywhere and if you find out and resort to making threats or anything that can be construed as threats to get them to stop you are going to wind up with a whole 'nother problem on your hands... if someone is nasty enough to accuse you of harming your child, they will not think twice about pressing charges against you or your fiancee for "threats" to them. It's best that you don't know right now. What you can do is cooperate with Social Services, ask if they have disciplinary procedures or reporting procedures for people who make multiple false reports. Let them know you will work with them 100%, but you are hurt that this is happening and would like to know if the person(s) making these accusations will have some sort of repercussions when their claims are found unsubstantiated.

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I'm not sure. I would go to the police station or a lawyer and talk to someone about this. Surly something can be done about waisting social services time deliberately just out of spite ?

Ok well you seem to be a good parent and look after your child. Now I understand that social services are just doing there job but I also understand that they are interfering with your life. The fact is that no one from social services is going to tell you as its confidential . Although I have heard that if some one is continuously calling you can ask the courts for a waiver which allows you anonymity as it is harassment with false accusations , but it is a hard process . Just hold out prove your a good mum and go from there, good luck hope this helps.

Saffron

It doesnt matter how clean your house is, how well dressed your boy is and how hard you work. Social work have had several complaints and are doing their jobs by monitoring you, at the end of the day theyr responsible for your son now too. Its not nice but its true. They have a duty to protect him. Why would your own mum or the babys aunt sink so low as to destroy your family? people like that are sick! as for your teacher you can report her and air your suspicion that she did this, but only to school board. Babys health visitor will be asked to provide a report and will hopefully confirm your boy is well cared for and well adjusted. Social work wont stay long unless they see something that concerns them.

Julie

nope, no way of finding out who reported you by going through the social services. Only way to find out is to drill your suspects individually.

Chris L

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