How do you make your 4 1/2 yr old clean her room.....read details.......................…

Be patien. I know it's harder to do than said, but at age 4 1/2 they have selective memories. My 5 year old can remember our next vacation a months from now, yet I have to ask her to clean her room everyday. I also have a 2 year who like to mess thing up, my daughter would complain why I make her clean her room but her brother get away with it. Kids are much more smarter than we think. Everytime I ask her to clean her room I would explain to her how dangerous it can be to put her toys all over the places. I prasie her like "good job" or thank you" etc... Sometime it help if you can make it into a game have your 21 month Toddler help his sister pickin up toys and stuff. Don't make it an obligation for her, tell her what a big girl she is now, if she can help you by clean up her room and around the house. My daughter and son like it everytime I ask them to help me with cook and clean up my house. In the long run it will become a routine and habit for them to keep their room clean. I hope this will help you **** luck

tell her u will help her but only a little bit though

Maybe you can try this...make a chart, it can be just a piece of paper with her name on it and "room cleaning chart" something liek that on it...tell her everytime she cleans her room without complaint, she gets a sticker and once the page is full of stickers, she will earn maybe a afternoon with mom for ice cream or whatever it is she likes. This will give her a goal to work towards and I am sure she would be proud of showing people all her stickers that she got!

WELL THE BEST THING TO DO IS TO TAKE AWAY ALL HER TOY'S AND STORE THEM, BUT TELL HER THAT THEY HAVE ASKED TO GO ON VACATION BECAUSE THEY NEED A BREAK FROM THE MESS IN THE ROOM AND THEY WILL COME BACK ONE AT A TIME IF THE ROOM IS KEPT CLEAN. I REALLY HOPE IT WORKS FOR YOU BECAUSE IT WORKED FOR ME. I THINK AT HER AGE IT IS TIME TO SHOW RESPONSIBILITY.

my son is also 4. stop bribing her because she will think that she there's always something in return. what i do to my son is put him in his room and tell him not to get out unless he clean his room. no tv, no goodies, etc. unless he'll clean his mess. i give him 15 minutes (and set a timer so he knows when his time is up). encourage her and be patient.

She's 4. If she's having a tantrum, say noting, put her in her room and tell her she can come out when she's quiet. when she's quiet,take her out and talk with her about why she was screaming and how she can get her point across with out screaming. As for cleaning her room have a family meeting and set up family rules and have her ( lead her in to it) make up the rule about cleaning her room and have her help decide what the consequences are for not cleaning it. This way she will feel like she had input and she might follow through. Good luck. It works in our family. Don't worry about her missing out. That's a conscience to the tantrum. In my experience spankings don't work to well . Putting them in a room until their quiet works much better. They feed off your reaction and frustration. Try no reaction

Try and make cleaning as fun as possible. Here are some ideas: -Play house with her. You be the mom and she the kid. And then pretend that the president (or the kids romodel) is coming over and the house has to be clean. (or something along those lines) -Make it a game. How about you have to clean your room and she has to clean her room. Whoever gets done first gets a treat (let her win...but make it be pretty close) Also, don't bribe. She may try to take advantage of you. Hope I helped, PolarGirl8

i dont think at 4 and a half is old enough to do cleaning up much...

Give her an allowence. Yes, four and a half is a little young, make it like a nickle, every day that she cleans her room. Give her the nickle as soon as her room is clean. Make a ceramony out of it. If she doesn't clean her room, don't fight with her about it, that's just giving her attention. Do her friend's clean their rooms? Make a big deal out of the fact that they do, what big girls they are, how much their mother's must appreciate their help, ect. Make a big deal out of the fact that you and your husband keep your room clean. Give yourselves allowence even for doing it, that will make her want it that much more.