Does anyone know any books on raising cattle specifically brown swiss?

Has anyone read the book Raising Your Spirited Child? by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka?

• Any feed back on this book would be great. My daughter is 2 years 5 months old. From birth she has always been a high need baby. But i love her exactly the way she is. I just need to learn how to parent her as a toddler. She is on a schedule in terms of sleep etc. But she is very active, she has a very hard time understanding that no means no. It is tough taking her anywhere. She is tantrum prone. I know these are characteristics with most 2 years old but i have noticed that is a little more intense with her. Also the fact that there is a new baby sister in the house is not helping matters. Anyway, i am just trying to educate myself with new ways of handling situations because she is sensitive and very intelligent and i don't want to kill her spirit because she is so much fun, just difficult to deal with if she doesn get her way and very hard to keep up with. If you have any other books that you feel are helpful please pass them along. Thanks!

• Answer:

  Ms. Kurcinka explains that "spirited" children are different than most others, and need different approaches. She guides the reader to understand what makes these special children tick, and why parents react the way they do to their children. She also urges a positive, rather than a negative, view of these childrens' differences which I like. Parents should be careful not to allow the information in this book to lull them into a false sense of well-being if their gut (or their pediatrician, or their child's teacher) tells them that something is really wrong. Your daughter is still very young, though and although she may be "higher maintence" than others, most toddlers have the same issues. After your daughter turns three, she may try harder to please, but often until most kids get that what they do affects others, their behavior will continue. Don't expect a 2 year old to have empathy- it's still all about her. By late 3 or 4 years of age, she should have the cognitive ability to grasp this concept and you should hold her accountable for her actions. Preschool is a great way to learn social rules and I'd be looking for a good one that fits her learning style and attends to the "whole child". Start visiting now. On a more personal note, when my son came along, my three year old daughter's behavior got better with a simple positive reward sticker chart. Just pick a few specific things and help her think of the rewards. Non-material ones are best, but hey, do what works, especially in the beginning. I also recommend "123 Magic" by Tomas Phelan, for a little later. This book provides a system to get your family operating smoothly. Especially sensible is Phelan's theory that children shouldn't be argued with endlessly to convince them to do what you want them to do. The plan is simple, and though it's not quite magic, it may feel like it is. Hope this helps!