When did the first daycare start?

Is the daycare my son's going to in some way hurting him?

• So, my son is 2 1/2 years old and is not able to talk much. He has been in daycare for almost 2 years but, he has been in 4 different daycares because of moving and personal issues. The first daycare he ever went to was the only one I had trouble taking him to he would scream and just hold on to me for dear life then when he would come home he would always have a bite mark so, after doing research and seeing for myself I heard this daycare had a really reputation so I pulled him out and put him in a new one, everything was fine there he loved it always wanted to go and wouldn't cry it was great. Well, we end up moving out of state and I found a daycare I thought I liked he started going and seemed to enjoy it he always wanted to go and again never cried when I dropped him off or gave any signs of anything being wrong until one day he came home with a deep scratch on his face and the teachers said they had no idea what happened they didn't even know he recieved it at the school so there was no incedent report or anything. When I asked him he said another had done it so we brushed it off like well stuff happens. Then he came home with another one and same situation (it's been 3 months and he still has the scars he recieved on his face). So after incedent number 2 among other things I would rather not go into depth about I start looking at other daycares and I found one that's just beautiful and so friendly I was so excited to get him enrolled everything seemed to be fine for the first couple of weeks and then he started banging his head really bad off the glass in the daycare to the point where he's coming home with bruises everyday and begging me not to take him he keeps saying "NO KEKE (KEKE is his teacher) I want to stay home mama" and he just begs. At first I thought he just wants to stay home because then when we pull up to the daycare he says "Yay bye mama" and runs right through the door. This weekend though has been the worst he is obsessed with it from the time he wakes up until he goes to bed he just say "MAMA no KEKE I want to stay home" and I've ensured him he's staying home for the weekend but, he isn't dropping it. I'm conflicted on weather or not to send him.. If he doesn't go I don't have anyone else to watch him while I work. They do have cameras in the rooms and I get online and watch but, I never see anything happen. I try and ask him why he doesn't want to go and he is unable to answer the question due to his lack of speech. How can I find out for sure i don't wan't to over react just because of the past but, I also don't want to not react if something is happening? Feedback would be nice I'm considering hiring a nanny but, I don't know if it's good to pull him out because he starts preschool in August and need to learn that school is something we just do. One last detail he has hit his head since he was about 7 months old and he does it at home to but, now it's alot more violent than what it was before this new daycare he never left bruises. Please no sarcasim I'm really just looking for an opinion outside of my circle of friends and family

• Answer:

  I think your son just wants to be around you. He probably misses you when he's at the day care! I have a new little son myself and am dreading the day I have to bring him to day care but to be able to work is very important so I totally understand if you don't have someone to watch him during work hours he must go to daycare. If they have cameras in the facility I highly doubt they would let anything at all happen without telling you. They know you can watch them at anytime. If he keeps getting marks or says things out of the norm ask the day care workers to keep an extra eye on him.