My two year old son is going to send me to the crazy house....?

You are catering to him. Stop it. Present him with food. If he eats it, great. If doesn't eat it, great. If he screams that it isn't what he wants, *IGNORE HIM*. Only if you really think he is suffering from nutritional deprivation should you be spending a lot of time trying to get him to eat. You need to stop being afraid of a little screaming. My niece and nephew were rather like that because their parents catered to them. When I've babysat, I am entirely consistent and don't change my when I make decisions unless they present a good reason. I certainly don't change my reasoning when people cry or yell at me. And yes, when they get all tragic as if the world was ending because they aren't getting what they want ... I LAUGH AT THEM. Children do not like being made fun of - so they'll stop it. It sounds cruel, but I only had to do it for a few hours. I haven't had to do it since (well, OK, once...). And I don't negotiate. I am the adult. I win. Period. Yeah, the first 5 hours was not fun - but now they are fine around me and only become little devils when their parents show up. They are actually adorable to be around when they aren't trying to manipulate their parents. They are creative, funny and can actually play well together. I'm not saying "Spare the rod, spoil the child" - but I am saying "Your child is not your boss."

He sounds like a smart litlte boy who needs to get outtside more. Children NEED fresh air and sunshine. Some more than others!! Take him to the park even if it is cold. Let him run around for as long as he needs to. He will be MUCH calmer when you get him home. And remember, he is only two. Most two year olds can't play alone. You have a special little boy who needs more attention than you are used to giving. Meet his needs. Don't compare him to your other children. He is an individual. Good luck. I bet he is VERY smart!

I laughed when reading this cause u just described my almost 2yr old except for the talking part. He has been ahead of most childern in the running,climbing, jumping part but is a lil slow talking but has recently been picking up new words quickly. I think my son is frustrated when we don't always know what he wants. He will take me to the cubbord and make me point at everything and want nothing, he gets into the fridge and steals pop and demands to look through it. He also does the crackers on the couch thing and the hundred diff meals till u find the right one. Here is what I do but keep in mind we still have alot of bad days espcially latly cause were moving and everything is unorganized. -Try to have a basic schedual of things u want to get done and things that need to get done then have him help u. Get him to stand on a chair and hand him the clothes to put in the wash or dryer and let him push any buttons. -give him a washclothe when doing dishes - My son won't sit in a corner so I put a babygate on his room and when he is bad he gets a timeout for 2 min then after timeout i quickly explain what he did wrong and ask for a hug and a kiss and 9 times out of 10 he doesn't do it again right away. Don't over due timeouts and make sure the room u choose is safe. -if he doesn't eat the first meal then wait an hour before cooking another nad stop snacks an hour before eating. He will eat what u give him if he is hungry. - do a really energetic activity first thing in the morning like take along walk or go to an open gym or even the mall on cold and rainy day. good luck and know ur not alone, there are some days where I swear I could beat him. They are always safer in a timeout even if u need a couple min to refreash.

I had a similar problem, but it wasn't nearly as bad as what you are describing. My child was running around every minute every day and it didn't seem like he was ever going to stop. He was from one end of the house to the other pulling things off of the shelf, slamming doors and screaming. I got some great advise from his pediatrician and it actually worked. My little booger just needed attention. Thats all he wanted. In the morning I make it a point to get up in the morning before he does. I then wake him up. May sound a little spoiled, but I try to have breakfast made before I wake him that way he doesn't have to ask for it. I explain to him, if he doesn't eat it that the won't get anything else. I purchased those child lock things for the cabinets and used those so he wouldn't be able to get to the snacks and things. After breakfast I release him outside. Letting him run and jump and play is the best thing in the world for him. I also got him a dog so that he would have a companion. The neighborhood kids are to old to play with him the way that he would understand, but the dog runs everywhere with him. The dog is his, noone elses. Then, around one or two I usually bring him in and let him take a nap. When he gets up in the afternoon we have a snack, together, and then we sit and watch tv together. I've learned thru my experience that little boys are attention getters. They love attention. If you stay at home with your little monster all day find things to entertain him with. I also read books with my little monster. I sit him down beside me and we read and interact with each other. He loves it. Then at the end of the day its bath time with bubbles, a sweet night time story and off to bed by nine. Its a great routine. On rainy days we stay inside, but we act like inside is outside and he still gets to run around the living room with his doggy. He understands very well and has become a really nice boy compared to the monster that he once was. I also have him enrolled in daycare which he attends two to three days out of the week. He gets to be with children his age and he can play with them as much as he wants. They've never had a problem with him at the daycare. Oh, and when you are starting off with this process he won't really understand the routine and he'll be contrary with it. You have to talk to him and explain to him that you are trying to be his friend. During the day if he does start having fits and crying out just let him. Don't give in to what he wants. It will be hard, but learn to ignore those fits. He'll be more worried eventually about getting your attention the right kind of way. You may even have to explain to him the right kind of way to get your attention. **Another thing that the pediatrician said is not to give my monster any type of red juice or soda. For some reason the red food coloring makes him hyper. I don't know exactly how that works, or why it does that, but it does. I've noticed a huge difference after stopping the red juices that he use to get.**

You might want to start by making a rule "no tantrums" (which includes screaming) and tell him this, and if he has one give him only one warning and put him in time-out. Buy some child-proof locks for your pantry or rearrange your kitchen or use baby-gates so that he can't get into things. Honestly, it sounds like he is acting out because he is getting bored. Because he has a more "intense" personality, his acting out will likely be more extreme. Adding to it even more, is the fact that he is very smart and therefore, probably VERY bored. The best thing you could probably do is get a routine and keep him as busy as possible. Make set times for everything. You daily routine should be something like: breakfast, then do some coloring, counting, singing, free time to play, then nap-time and crafts or playdough. After that a snack-time and go to the park or outside to play for 45 min. or more. Make a routine that fits for you both. Check your local library for events and things that are free, sign him up for play-groups where he has a chance to play with other kids, or sign him up for toddler gymnastics or toddler swim lessons. Just keep him active and busy. If you can, buy toys he can burn some energy on like a Sit N Spin, a small blow-up ball pit, a blow-up "Jumpolene" from walmart ($40) or an indoor slide or play-house or play-tent. When he asks for something in a demanding way, tell him how he should say it, "Mom could I have some oatmeal, please?" and then give him the thing he's asking for. You'll probably feel like you are wasting your time parroting to him what he should say, but he will be learning. My son went though the same phase, and it took time, but now at 3yrs old he's asking for things politely. Offer him the meals you are eating and if he doesn't want to eat that's his choice let him be done with the meal, but DO NOT offer a snack or he will be happy to live off snacks instead. He can wait until the next meal to eat. But, I wouldn't give in to his demands to make more food or he won't learn to eat what everyone else eats. I know they make books for parents of difficult or "intense" children, if you think that would help. Just be consistent with time-outs and keep him active. He might be getting his 2yr molars right now as well, which may be making things worse.

ha ha ha... actually my lil bro is just like that!!! belive me!! mm im not a mum but an elder sister and i can tell u how my mum helps with herself when my bro is too much u no kinf of naughty and annoying...:] actuallly the littlle kids more attention.. my mum tells him in the alone that he shouldnot do like that . i no that he doesnot understand it but some thing does go into his mind.. he is the smallest kid in our home so u no these youngest kids no how well they can ask for the fullfillment for thier wishes... had u tried giving him papers and paints? i beh he will b interested. these kids are highly intelligent belive me i always see being quality of naughty in his eyez... he is all the time going up n going down... dont worry this is just their sort of their personality... but is it like maybe some of ur child's siblings maybe treating him badle or i mean rudely, plz make sure thats not happening coz this makes thier habbits go wrong , when the do some thing wrong politely ask them not to do that or pinch them but very lightly, it should not hurt them neirther thay should no thay have been pinched by u.. also give him some outing like going in park or something.. dont be rude i no ur not but maybe the siblingz.. or others in ur home... anyway when i read ur prblm i was laughing coz samething iz wid my bro as he is the smalllest kid in home n most naughty n even my mum says none of her child was as naughty as he is!!!!!! just be polite.... thats all and listen to him.. hope that works but let me tell u no one fact like i am callinh it a fact coz i have mostly seen this.. the little kids in homes r mostly naughty!!! and sweet n cute!!!!