How to get over the father of your child when they find someone else while your pregnant?

Im sorry that you are having such a hard time and where with such a jerk. It also sounds like you shouldn't let the girl he is with bother you so much because obviously she got left once for someone else by the guy when he left her to get with you and then she let him come back and will probably end up in something like your shoes soon. It sounds like you are doing the right thing in not wanting the guy in your baby's life. I know it hurts right now. It always does to break up with someone you thought loved you but the pain will go away and you will be able to find someone new who is good to you and can help you and your child have such a better life and be happy and not have to deal with the drugs and trouble. Trust me when you look at your baby you will not think of them as his baby. You will think of them as your perfect little bundle of joy you would never want to give up for anything and they will always be able to make you happy with one little smile. Be happy that you are going to have a beautiful baby and have the means to take care of them and that you will always be able to love and hold your child and no one can take that away. Just be happy in being around your parents and people who love you and such and go shopping for things for your baby and enjoy the excitement of getting to be a new mother. Your stupid ex-boyfriend will never know what a great thing he is going to miss.

That is so sad :'( He was a real jerk to you. He should go straight to hell because you didn't do anything to make them treat you like that. I'm sorry you have to go through this but that's just life. One day you'll get over him and realize you don't need him. Good luck with the baby and I hope you feel better (:

i know just what your going through and its rough i was 6 months when my so called man took off with some girl he just met after a big fight. he waited 3 days before he even called me and it took a week and a half for him to tell me he was sleeping with her and that he loved her and was living with her...like your man he had a background been in prison and everywhere else you can imagine. so i just told him to come over and we would talk about what to do with the baby arrangments or he would not see his kid. so when he came over i was sweet and loving and he said that he missed me and he didn't know who he wanted to be with. after 3 days of fighting i love yous and everything in between he picked me up in her car road me around to let me get back at her and then we took her car to her work and dropped it off and he never looked back. yes for me there was a lot of crying and a crap load of praying for my baby. i got out and went everywhere i wanted to go did anything i wanted to do. and in the end he came back. i know how hard it is and that it is easier said than done but trust me live your life for you and your baby! cause you get to spend the rest of your life with your baby and will always wonder if he made the right choice. and if he cant keep a job then he wont be able to pay for a dna test or pay the courts to order one so your safe and if some how he does then just say he is an unfit father and if he has to have visition then it will be suppervied! and no she cant come ...oh yeah if he goes a year without seeing the baby you can file abandonment charges on him and he cant see the baby at all!!!! wanna know anything else just let me know!

Simple answer: If he doesn't want to be with you, move on. I don't want to sound rude. I have a friend going through a similar situation, only he's the guy. He left his baby mama for another girl after his daughter was born. Baby mama has only given him hell since. I'm not saying you would be like that, but what I am saying is that you shouldn't lower yourself to that. If someone does not want to be with you it is not your fault. It doesn't make you any less beautiful or any less of a person. It is easy in situations like this to only think about your relationship with that person you shared such an intimate part of you with. Honestly, the only important thing is your baby. If the situation is not good for the child, leave it be. Just be a mom and continue living. If the dude wants to be a part of his kid's life he has every right. If he doesn't, don't force it on him. Go to court, get the child support, and do your thing. It may seem like the end of the world, but trust me, there are far more important things to worry about.

sounds like you found a winner. quite honestly from the way you make him sound, you shouldn't have anything to do with this loser. i believe you should leave him, delete any contact you have with him and move in with (or close to) your parents, your child and YOU will have a much better life. as time goes on you'll find new people and not have feelings for him anymore, it will still hurt when you think about it so try not to so much. seems like he needed a reason to get away from the responsibility of a child. as for being sad when you're baby is born, you'll most likely change your mind. you'll feel that your child is the most important thing in your life and even if they were a mistake, you'll love them to death. as for him/her not knowing their father should be up to them when they're old enough. but thats all opinion anyhow. everyone who tries at life deserves someone who's better and is going somewhere