Do you believe in spanking?

Do you think this survey is right that more younger women believe in spanking than did the older generation?

  • I have been saying for a while that I thought there was a trend among younger mothers back toward spanking. Today I ran into an actual survey with the same result. Even though that was my impression--I was surprised by how high the numbers were. The concusion was: "In 2004, 79 percent of 18 to 24 year old females agreed that a child sometimes needs a "good hard spanking" compared with 61 percent of 45 to 65 year old females" You can find it at: http://www.childtrendsdatabank.org/indicators/51AttitudesTowardsSpanking.cfm My Mom is one of the 61 percenters, though to people she always seemed liked a very liberal, cool Mom (and she was) but she also believed in an occassional "good hard spanking":http://girlinshortshorts.blogs… Anyway, do you think these statistics are correct. I do. I think younger parents are just getting sick and tired of spoiled bratty kids and the Supernanny nonsense.

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    I think you hit the nail right on the head. Many of the younger generation that are old enough to have children now are the ones who were raised with "time-outs" and no spanking. They learned from their own experiences what worked and what didn't and are seeing the result all around them in their own peer groups (myself included). People are slowly starting to see that the whole anti-spanking ordeal is NOT working because, with anti-spanking being so prevalent today, there is more violence among juveniles than there was before (during the previous generations that DID spank). Spanking equals one or 2 incidents with a dude sitting in a clock tower with a rifle. No spanking equals school shootings on the daily news. When used correctly spanking is a necessary form of discipline that DOES need to be brought back and possibly TAUGHT to parents, ways to utilize it correctly. Oh and to the poster above me about spanking "lowers the IQ" that is from the Gershoff study from 30 years ago and it outdated and antiquated. Read up on the more recent studies by Baumrind. There is absolutely NO PROOF that spanking lowers the IQ of a child, however, there is proof that children who are raised with only verbal punisment or only time-outs are more emotionally and mentally disturbed than those who are spanked moderately and properly.

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That Supernanny crap doesn't work! Kids need a good hard crack across the butt to put the fear in them!!! edit: In response to the lady that says spanking lowers IQ's... How on Earth does spanking a child lower their I.Q.? It's not like you're smacking them in the brain... My 2 sisters and myself were spanked by our mother, practically beaten by our father, yet we all have high IQ's, and were Honors Students from grade school till college graduation.

Sarah R

I agree, because the younger generation happen to be the result of the older, and get to see first hand how that didn't work. Remember though, discipline does mean 'to teach', so use spanking as a last resort to really really bad behavior. However, if a child is about to touch a hot pan or something else that could cause serious injury, a good swat on the hands followed by the reason for it is absolutely necessary.

marriedw/children

No, I don't think they are true. I think that any survey that you take is going to be off. It all depends on WHO takes your survey. For all we know they could have gone back out the next day and had opposite results. I think there is no such trend. People who spank were probably spanked. Their friends probably spank as well. It's just who you know I guess. I know just as many younger mom's who choose not to discipline at all. Honestly, why do you even care what kind of discipline people use? If it works for them and their children then why even worry? Trust me; I've known many a bad child and there were some who were spanked and some who were not. It's all in HOW you discipline.

Lucy

I totally agree with you. Im the younger generation, and I totally believe kids need spankings! If not they will turn out to be spoiled brats with little displine. I also agree that the old generation didnt care for spanking as much, my mother never spanked me. My grandmother, now thats a different story...

the princess

That does surprise me, but obviously when super-nanny doesn't work, something must be done.

Tito

I'm 26 and believe in spanking, but I do not agree with doing it with my hand. I use a switch (rod as used on proverbs) that is about 12 inches long and as think as a spag noodle. I had said that in a comment once and I was told that I didnt deserve to have kids and was a bad mother even though I've never had to yell at my kids or switch them in ange.

kittykat

Yes, I agree younger parents are spanking more today. It seems like a big cycle going round and round. Maybe the majority of the population is feeling today's liberal, government involved society has gotten out of hand, and not it's time to revert back to what works, good old fashioned family values. For us that does include an occasional "good HARD spanking" I know a set of parents who never spanked their children before, they asked us how we raised our girls, and decided to give spanking a try. All I got to say is, now that their children are in line, they are much happier and healthier as a family. Spanking does work, but like anything else, parents need to believe in what they are doing. Nice Find!

olschoolmom

As I've always said to people - you can't blame the spoiled behavior of american kids on a lack of spanking because most americans spank (and most always have.) Every family I know that uses spanking has kids who misbehave. If spanking worked, you wouldn't have to keep doing it. I think younger parents aren't thinking things through and many are working and not even raising their own kids and knowing them well enough to teach them self-discipline. Spanking is always a failure on the part of a parent. It displays ignorance, arrogance, and a complete lack of empathy. It is also lazy and stupid, as it teaches the child nothing. In fact, spanking lowers the IQ, studies show. So, please, spare us the 'common sense' of stupid young moms and stupid old moms, too. What's wrong with kids today is day care, divorce, and other forms of parental selfishness.

cassandra

I believe in both the suppernanny "crap" and spanking. I believe she does have some good idea of things to "try" before going right in to spanking a child but yes sometimes a good hard spanking is absolutely necessary. I wasnt spanked as a child. I am not saying I am a "bad" person actually i believe I am a great person however there were time that I believed at the time i did it and to this day that i really didn;t get the punishment that was really nessary or deserved if i got one at all. I think an occasion spanking will I believe raise a kids self esteem a little. I am not saying beating the hell out of them I am saying a good spanking when called for. I think it will in a sense tell a kid that mom and dad will not tolerate some things and DO care about behavior and not just say they dont they PROVE it. I especially think its good occasionally in a house where both parents work or alot is going on. When parents arent around or alot os going on its harder to go through a grounding and the kid isn't gonna just obey it if they dont "have" to. Plus, its the fact the kid knows the parent is going out of their way to do something when they mess up verses just saying the words "you're grounded". That takes as much effort to say as I love you. You also can't just say "I love you" without some effort and proof for the kid to believe you. So to believe that you mean business they need to shown it as well more then jsut words. I am 23 no kids yet but when i do i will spank. So i will be one of the 79% of moms.

Jewels

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