What a parent can do to encourage sibling affection between infants and the preschool siblings?

Older siblings abusing a younger sibling, parents abusing older siblings, etc..?

• My siblings claim to have been abused horribly by my parents, and that I got it much better. They say that's the reason that they beat me and verbally abused me. I'm 6 years younger than them, and I still live with my parents, they moved out years ago. They keep calling my parents and arguing with them over what happened, even though my parents have apologized saying that they did not respond correctly all the time and that it was just a tough time in general. Some of their stories did happen but some don't exactly fit. My siblings are close in age so they egged each other on. My sister attempted to kill me when I was 9 and she was 15. She has never apologized or anything. My siblings threatened to beat me when they were 18-years-old, I was just a kid. My brother has apologized and he's changed, my sister hasn't and she still behaves this way sometimes. My parents spent over six thousand dollars on therapists for both my siblings and themselves, have countless self-help books in the home, and my mom said she considered giving my siblings up for adoption or killing herself to make things better. My siblings claim to have been beaten from an early age, and I believe a lot of the instances. However, they got physical in their teens, both towards my parents and me, and claim that they aren't responsible for it at all. They say my parents are the root of it all, and that I wasn't exactly an angel. They say I was incredibly annoying, although they don't remember any specific instances. I also was at a disadvantage since I watched ALL of them fight, my mom and my dad, mom and sister, dad and sister, mom and brother, sister and brother, dad and brother. They all fought with me as well. I do not think that seeing as how I was a CHILD that being annoying warranted the abuse I received. I do think that my parents were getting better as my siblings got older, which is why I didn't get as horrible treatment from them as my siblings. But I think that they were responsible for the stuff they did later at many times (although perhaps not all), and I remember my parents crying and crying because they'd threaten to throw themselves out of moving cars and we couldn't have knives in the house. If I found a knife in my sister's room I'd hide it. Everybody has a breaking point, how long can you milk this if they have apologized? My parents say that they feel horrible thinking about it and when people bring it up, that they wish things could've gone better and that they responded the wrong way a lot of the time. They have discussed this for hours and hours and hours, they've even had meetings. Was what they did really not their fault? My brother says that no abuse towards a child is OK, not even hitting them slightly. I agree when it's a child, but I also think that kids with the diagnoses SEVERE BEHAVIORAL PROBLEMS can push their parents and by the time they hit their teens they should know better. My sister said she was going to murder me and my dad because she knew it would hurt my mother. She would come up to her from behind and bang her head against stuff, randomly come up to her and throw down the chair she was in and beat on her. My mom hit her too but that was usually after long arguments. She would cry afterwards. I don't think you can allow your kids to get away with stuff like that forever, when turning the internet off, taking away their electricity, phones, etc. doesn't work, that sometimes the time comes where you have to fight back. I think they all egged each other on. I know this doesn't sound like a question but I want some input on the things I said, whether you think I'm wrong or right or links to studies and stuff like that. I have made my peace with my parents and they have apologized many times, they still get angry but it's very rarely and they behave much differently. I have made my peace with my brother as well, although my sister and I are not on speaking terms, it's not because of our childhood. I just want some peace in my family, but I also am confused about the origins of stuff..I'm 17. Thank you in advance.

• Answer:

  Oh my god I am so sorry maybe you should have called child services she tryed to kill you that sucks I am surprised you didn't run away