Do you think I should give him a second chance?

I would tell him to grow up. He is no real man in the first pace if he dumped you when he found out you were pregnant. A real man/dad would be there regaurdless. It sounds to me like this guy is seeing the child as if it were a chore or obligation. Save the child the hurt and let dad go, when your son is old enough I would explain things to him and let him make his choice to see dad from then on. I cant beleive he is mad over child support!! He laid down and helped make him so now he has to help take care of him!! I am sorry this happens to anyone, its sad.

Leave the creep and his interfering mother alone. Have your child and raise your child with out the stupidness. He had a chance and he blew it. Girl, and get your child support, you didn't make that baby on your own. God Bless.

one hour a week with you there. write everything down or record it.

Let him see your son. He might not be the best dad in the world, but he is the kids dad. Don't let your child see the anger between you and your X. Your son will eventually hate you if you keep him from his dad. It is time to set aside the bad blood between you and the kids dad. It will be the best gift that you can give your son. Remember your son is genetic related to his father and if you talk smack about him... in a way you are talking smack your son. You can't understand this but your little boy will sense your disapproval and in a way it is not likeing him. Be the bigger person in this. In the long run you will be glad.

Let me tell you from experience to stay out of it and just let things happen. I used to send christmas gifts and birthday cards to my kids and put their dads name on them, because I love my kids and didn't want them to hurt, but boy did that bite me in my ***. Now my kids are 12 and 13 and speak to their dad and his family and he has yet to pay support or even call them first.They think he is just the greatest and they threaten me with him all the time. I know they will realize when they are older, but it is very hurtful to me. Now he has manipulated them into defending him and he continues to lie and make promises to them that he never keeps. I know that these things hurt them, but now they would never let me know because they are going through that teenage crap and pit him against me, because I'm the evil parent who feeds and clothes them. Good Luck.

Set the example as the good parent. Let him see the kid and do whatever you can to make sure the kid has access to his dad. It's the kid's right. Even if you're trying to protect your son, he's gonna find out what's going on now or later, and if you hide anything he'll just be angry at you. Cover your *** and always do the RIGHT thing. You'll be the good guy ;) I help with a group called KIDS NEED BOTH PARENTS and I have lots of advice and personal experince to back it up...

I'm afraid the law doesn't give you the right to deny this loser access to your son, if he wants to he could assert his right to see your son in a court of law. Unless you can definately prove that having the father of your child visiting your son will put your son in danger, you would lose the case. If Mr.loser is not dangerous, save yourself the possible agoney of a posible courtcase and let loser visit your son.

I know it's hard not to say and act negatively about your ex but it is really important to try your hardest to keep quiet on the negative to your son. He knows what he doesn't have (from him). Do everything you can to encourage your ex to be the positive influence on your son he should be. If he doesn't get it there isn't much you can do. But it could mean so much to your son if he see's that his dad does love him. And isn't your son's happiness what is really the most important thing here?

when i was young my real dad left my mom for the same reason so as a persons who's in his late 20's now this answer would probably be from your sons point of view. although the question your asking is should a man who doesn't want kids be given a chance to be a father there is also a question of should your own son be given a chance to know his real father. in my situation i wouldn't want anyone answering that question for me. but of course i didn't make that choice (which was to not try and contact him anymore) until I was old enough to do so with a clear understanding of why(something my mother knew long before me), but i appreciated my mother later for allowing me to have the choice one way or the other.