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What services are you getting from the state of calif (specifically harbor regional) for your autistic child?

My first son was taken by social services and now i want another child . will they take this one?

  • i had my son taken into the care of his father by social services about a year and a half ago, i was mentally ill and breaking down showing signs of thinking my son was very ill and worrying myself sick constantly approaching medical teams, social services took my son to his fathers and we worked closely under the promise my son would be returned, instead while i was getting better witch has taken numourous addmisions to cyciatric care and medication , his father chose to take matters to court and claim full custody, i was not in a state to fight and his dad won very shortly after social services removed my son, i did not in any way abused or neglect my son and social services made this very clear but that they were worried if i carried onto break down it would affect him greatly, as a very young parent and struggling with mentel health i alloud them to take my son, yours and east sussex constantly told me that i would have the care of my son returned after a while to get better, i fought and got myself stable and better whilst having no contact with my son, not only due to his father but also down to the fact that i was ill and not able to commit , i ran away scared as at 19 this was all alot to take in, i have since come back to england and am going to court for access to my son i have got my life back on track after social services refusing to help me and just simply ruining my life and taking my son , instead of bothering to offer help to a mentaly ill young mum. i am writing today to simply ask about what this means for me now? i was never charged with anything alothough social services were concerned about my son while i was in that state, so if i chose to have another child now im better would they simple take that too? or be on my case 24/7 i would expect to have to see a social worker or for my child to be monitered to prove my stability and point but this is ruining my life. i am so scared of havin a child now i am better down to the way things were handled before. please get back to me as soon as possible as this situation is horrible. i would love a family now i am older and alot better and to have reguallar contact with my son aswell but i cant do that until i have the reassurence that being ill for a while does not ruin my whole life, i grew up with social services ruining my life i dont want them to ruin my adult life too. i just want a family and know that that wouldnt be taken from me ... i am stable and better now and have regullar mental health checks all of witch state that im ok and doing very well. i want another child so much im just so scared that it would all be behind my back and then they would take my child or decide to before its even born . jade

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    You've not told us the most important facts here- So are you married now and in a loving stable relationship? Are you working and earning ? do you have a home of your own? You need to prove to them that you have made progress in your whole life, not just your mental health Don't bring another child into the world unless you have a stable ,secure relationship and can provide for the child in every way- financial and emotional

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First get settled down and get married. Then when you feel that you can afford the money and time, have your child. Otherwise it will be a very poor decision to bring another life into this World.

Fred F

You talk of having a second child, but make no mention of any partner? If you have a stable relationship that could well have a positive bearing on things, but if you havent then getting pregnant outside of a stable relationship would not show you as being very responsible at all. But in any event you cant get absolute authoritative answers here - talk to your social worker, they will be the ones to know the answers to this question.

Leanne

Yes, they will take it. Please don't have any more children.

Steve

They will investigate most likely. IN your case, you should investigate your reasons for wanting a child. Is it to replace your lost child? Do you have a partner you wish to raise a family with? Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons before you jump in.

asrai

They may well take him but if your health has improved and they do not deem you to be at risk to your child and that you also have some source of help i would have thought that they would just monitor you closely to see how you are doing with him? :-)

LittleMissMe

i could not get back onto my other account but as asked.... i am happily engaged , in my own house and full time employed yes, i am not a stupid teenager or anybody simply trying to replace a child, i simply would like a family now that i am alot better, i am in a stable relationship and would like to think that this would all be taken into account i do not feel that i can contact social services as i am not falling for there usuall lies and untruths

jade

if your mentally unstable then yes they will take it, they won't take it because of something in the past.

Isabella

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