Why do so many people think that stay at home mothers are so much better parents than working mothers?

Works both aways actually. Some people think to themselves "WTH,?? Is this the 1920's or something" when they hear a person still has old fashioned views. We all get judged my SOMEBODY no matter what we do. Everyone has their own opinion and we are all different. It doesn't make a mom better or worse for working or staying home. The best moms do what benefits her family and her children and herself the best.

Blah blah blah. That's what I say when people tell me I'm a bad mom because I work. It's the way you parent your child, not whether you work or not. My son and I have a bond that I don't think anyone could break. He loves his mommy and his mommy loves him more than anything in the world. He's also learned SO much in daycare - more than I could have taught him in the past 21 months. He's learned to count to 10, how to share, how to interact with other children, how to stand up for himself, how to make friends, colors, letters, everything. I'm extremely lucky to have him in such a great daycare. I'm a good parent. I won't say I'm awesome or perfect or the best. But I do the best I can for him and that's all I can do. Working Mom's vs SAHM is such an old argument and it honestly really doesn't even matter.

You can live off one income. It isn't that difficult to do. Just do away with all the luxeries you are used to. Get rid of bills that you don't need such as TV, cell phones, extra car. Children NEED their mother for the first 5 years of their liife. The first 5 years are critical in a child's development. We manage on one income. I'm a home maker and a full-time student. I plan on being a stay at home mom until I die (God Willing) when God blesses us with children but then I've always respected my God given role in society to be a wife and mother. Anyway if you are willing to sacrifice certain things in your lifestyle to stay home with your children it is well worth it and your children will be thankful for it when they grow up. How can you expect your child to listen to you or have respect for you when both its parents are in working and it is in daycare for 8-12 hours a day? I think one of the reasons why society has failed so much is because babies are thrust with a babysitter or stuck in daycare from the time they are born. But then again not all stay at home moms are good parents either.

Why do so many people care what others think?? Last time I checked, I am the only one living my life and I am the only one who knows what's best for my son and I. It would be crazy for me to let OTHER peoples views bother me, especially when I bust my butt everyday. *Lol and since I am a single mom, would it be better for me to be a SAHM and collect? Im sure that would teach my son great values.

I disagree with your friend. I think it really has to do with age, income and place in life. If you are still in school then I assume you are young and haven't had a "career" yet. When I had my first child I had been working a corporate job for 10+ years, had already experienced a career and been able to save some money to allow me to stay home if I wanted to. I was ready for a change. It depends on each persons lifestyle and experiences.

Working or SAHP makes no difference to how good a parent is - either male or female - I am a SAHM because circumstances around my son dictated it - now I love being at home and have no intention of going out to work again if I can avoid it - I haven't worked for 14 years. But you say you don't want to be judged because you go out to work so please afford us SAHP the same consideration - "So...the mother that chooses to stay at home is better than me because I've made the decision to be out providing for my family and contributing to the world? Are you kidding me?" Just because I don't go out to work doesn't mean I don't provide for my family and contribute to the world - My husband can do the job he does because I am at home - I provide for my family by doing everything in the house and I contribute to the world by being a volunteer and a governor at a primary school - a thankless task I may add So no its same difference but we each deserve each others respect for the choices we made

working mothers are always leaving their kids with different ppl maybe family members or daycare. and parents who stay at home seem to BOND more with their kids i beleive becuz they are always with them. but i think if u leave ur kid with other ppl it will interact more ya know rather than ALWAYS cry when mommy leaves cuz shes alwayysss home. or instead of going to anyone else if they get hurt always go to their mommy. i beleive kids should be interacted with other guardians and kids such as themselves. thats what im doing with my child. full time parents tend to leave their kids alot as well as part time mothers sometimes. (part time workers like me) and ppl who stay at home all the time have a harder time with their kids at shcool i would think their mom always being there and then leaving them in an unfamilar enviroment. just a couple thoughts. hope it helps?

Because good parenting takes time, and working mothers have less of it. And no, so-called "quality time" doesn't make up for good (not terrible, of course) quantity of time, which children need. I've met both good and bad mothers who do both. I know plenty of SAHMs who plant their kids in front of the TV and feed them poor quality food while they party, get drunk, do drugs, sleep around - whatever. That does not fall into my category of a good mom. I've met working moms who work really, really hard to be there for their kids. But overall, when the chips fall on one side or the other, a SAHM who is motivated to actually be a mother, has the time resources to do her job well, whereas a working mother with the same motivation does not have the time resources, and is usually stressed over all her responsibilities. As a mostly SAHM for my kids' entire lives (except when they were very young, and I was very foolish), my husband and I committed through thick and thin to be there for my kids. We had one car, lived in a small house, suffered with poverty, filed bankruptcy at one point (failed business), didn't go on vacations, did fun things at home with what we had, hardly ever ate meals out, at simple food at home, used hand-me-downs, and my husband worked VERY long hours so that we could parent our kids full-time. It was HARD. After our third was born, my husband went back to school full-time and STILL worked full time to support us. He was gone from the house for 20 hours a day with our only car. I raised the three kids by myself, and our youngest had autism and needed lots of special care. My point it, NOBODY can tell me it can't be done on one income. It just can't be done on one income without making sacrifices. People who say it can't be done are really just saying they don't want to make the sacrifices. It's not a snooty attitude. It is an acceptance of the reality that children take time and care. Lots of it. They deserve it, too. Not cut out to be a housewife? Tough. Sometimes that means you're not cut out to be a cookie cutter suburbian clone. Nothing wrong with that - it's fine to parent outside the box. It's fine to do your own thinking. But if you're thinking cleaning all day, nobody should do that either. You can neglect your kids just as well when you're in the same house with them, and nobody's house needs that much care. Though, if you think, by going back to work that there will be less cleaning to do, or that your husband will actually do some of it, think again. You'll still be responsible for it all, even if he 'helps' it's not the same thing as taking responsibility. I quit the rat race and stayed home with them. I CHOSE to stop dealing with the stress of a career on top of being a wife and mother, because I was not capable of doing it all, well, at once. And nobody is. There are only 24 hours in a day, and if you try to do it all at once, something will not be done well.

I'll be a SAHM too until I finish my nursing degree and then I'll become a "working" mom. I think that to qualify as a good mom you need to give you child every possible chance in life that you can offer them. If the only thing you can offer them is love then you're a good mom, if you can offer them trips to europe or yearly family vacations but leave them with other people all the time and have nannys coming in and out of their lives and they think of their teddy bear more as a parent then the actual parent, then I think that the term good mom/parents shouldn't be considered. So sahm or working, providing for your child, loving your child and accepting who ever they turn out to be, I consider that a good mom.