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What is the best way to discipline your kids?

Why did people have a problem with the way i discipline my kids?

  • my little girl does not want to sit in a chair the right way, she doesnt sit up, she doesnt keep her legs close! she is 7 and i have told her how a little girl is to sit in a chair and she does not want to sit that way. we were at the doctor office and she would not sit in a chair like a good little girl, so i made her stand with her hands above her head right in front of me! untill her brother was done with the doctor! if she cant sit in a chair right then she can stand untill she decides to sit properly how do you feel about this, some of the parents wanted to know why i would not let her sit down in a chair.

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    its no different than a Time Out. you are not hitting her or doing anything that i see as wrong. some parents probably see nothing wrong with the way your daughter was sitting and that is why they question your methods. but i think she is at an age where she understand instructions and consequence. so the fact that you asked her to do something and she did not is reason enough for her to be punished. now, we don't know the tone that you took with your daughter or how the actual events played out and maybe that is what the other parents were objecting to. but since i wasn't there, i can only judge the situation that you presented.

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I think that's a little harsh. You need to pick your battles. If you get that nuts about the way she sits in a chair...then I would hate to see what you do to her when she really does something wrong. Lighten up!

megansm1975

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Big Wheela Cat Peela

Because kids are kids. Sorry, but it sounds like you are a little bit controlling. Is she wearing a dress? I suggest putting her in pants. Kids rarely stay still and disciplining her for "the way she sits" seems a bit extreme to me. It also sounds like you are gender stereotyping. She's gonna grow up being resentful if you continue to gender stereotype like that, which means you punish her for the same things your son does but don't punish him. Add - Here's the message from you - From: Bob R Subject: hi Message: what is up you wh*re look i make my son do the same as my girl sit in a chair sit up respect your privates and be quiet and respectful to others ------- Good that you don't stereotype then. I suggest you take your own advice and be respectful to others also. You asked for advice and I gave it with as much tact and respectability possible. Sorry you got offended. Good luck to you.

You sound like a control freak. Who cares how she sits? She's 7, not a debutante. Get over it. Pick your battles. I can't imagine how you punish her when she misbehaves.

GabesMommy

wow thats embarrasing are u going to do that w|her when she's a teenager? if so you'll have problems....... instead of doing that maybe try to scare her by looking at her a certain way or telling her if she doesnt do wat u say she wont b able to do what she likes or tell her she wont have wat she wants

judyizacutie

MAYBE because you are WRONG and bordering on abuse??? ? Sheesh put the kid in pants and take something along to occupy the mnind while waiting in a waiting room. Learn to discipline in a way that is not harming kids emotions (embarssing her etc is not good) I have news flash: at 7 kids fidget and move around. at least she was sitting.

zinger

I think you thought of a creative way to encourage her to listen.

Rosie aka Rosie

WONDERFUL IDEA! I also have a 7 yrd old that loves to wear skirts and not sit in a chair properly. I carry a pair of pants with me and if she sits with her legs open then I make her wear both the skirt and the pants. I'm going to try the standing up. When I shop for her skirts though I acutally buy the skorts b/c she has this problem. But event hose are made wide legged and I have a 36 lb. 7 yr old so it still looks like she's not wearing shorts underneath. Not a bad punishmetn at all. I believe as long as it's not abuse, punish your child the way you see fit....Most parents these days don't punishe their children and that's why they are running over everyone. I have 4 and they know momma don't play!!

mommaof4

well how does a little girl sit in a chair? i mean its no different then a boy unless shes wearing a dress! and if thats the case make her put shorts on underneath it!! i didnt learn how to cross my legs in a dress till i was in my teens......lol i was raised in bluejeans and tshirts until i could sit right as far as the punishment i think its ok but humilating to your daughter especially if there was folks in the waiting room you could of waited till she got home and where is her mother thats who needs to teach her how to sit and how to be a lady!

~*cindy *~

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