Any stay at home mom's sick of defending themselves to others?

My family has put me through the same thing. For years I have listened to them tell me to put my kids in daycare and get a job. 1) My husband didn't want me to go back to work. We both felt it was important that one parent be here all the time. 2) My husband makes enough money so I can stay home. 3) Considering I was never able to get to college, by the time I would get a job, my entire check would go to paying for daycare. So what's the point when it comes down to it? I think it's great in this day and age that moms can still be at home with their kids if they choose to. I have four older kids 10, 8,6, 5. And I have a new baby who is 5 months old. After awhile I basically told everyone to butt out it was none of their business how we parent our children.

When I had my first child, I went back to work. It was very hard because my mother in-law watched my daughter when I wanted to be the one raising her full time. When I became pregnant with my son, I quit working because at the time my mother in-law went back to work and we needed to save money for our new baby. What an adjustment. She was raising my daughter one way and I wanted her raised another. Lots of tempers flaired because I wouldn't put them into day care. I now have three kids and I enjoy spending as much time as possible with them. When people ask me if I work, I tell them 24/7. I am a stay at home mom and love every minute of it. My children have a social life with the neighbors kids and their cousins. My mother in-law caused so much conflict over this that she had some of our friends and family stop talking to us. We just said oh well and went the other way. She was even so mad that we had a third child, she stopped talking to us. My 3rd child is two and she has never seen him.It's sad when in-laws try to control you. Just remember this, they did a study and found that if a stay at home mom was paid, she would make over $130,000. Don't pay no mind to the people who stare you down because you stay at home with your child. They are probably just jealous because they can't.

There is only one reason your mother in law does this to you. She feels guilty as hell that she was a horrible mother to her son and you are a good mother. She can deal with this by embracing, celebrating, and relishing that her grandchild has a happy life or she can be an immature, shallow ***** and try to spread the deprivation she inflicted on her son to her grandson's life. i am strongly opposed to day care because it is very very very very harmful to children and decades of research demonstrate this. you don't want it for your kid because you've worked in one - for goodness sakes, you of all people can judge. Please do not feel the need to prove yourself to the stupid and the ignorant whose opinions you do not value. Be clear on that. You do not agree with your mother in law. Why discuss it at all with her? Stop. If you can't, just tell her that the NICHD research is quite clear that day care is very harmful to children - especially their social skills, for god's sake - don't listen to the ignorant!!!!!! - and that you are so amazed and grateful that she did such a great job with your husband but that you just don't have what she's got and can't do it all. That to do your very best for your child, you need to be there. If that doesn't do it, then the next time she starts in, tell her that you need to make sure your son is properly socialized and that includes removing him from the prescence of people so rude as to put down a child's mother. And leave. Even your own house. Or, flip a quarter at her and tell her to call someone who cares about her mean-spirited and utterly idiotic and unsupported by science opinion.

HAHAHA, YOUR MOTHER IN LAW IS FULL OF you know what. Ya right lets put our child in day care where some under paid provider just tries to keep them from getting killed. Or you could stay home with them create a bond that will last a lifetime, and watch them reach all the potential they are destine to have. Stay at home moms are similar to breast feeding moms. We all know breast feeding is the best option for the baby, and we all know stay at home moms give there children the best chance at success. I congratulate you for being able to stay home with your child. Ignore the people who give you dirty looks. Deep down they wish they could or should stay home with there kids.

if you can't stand up to her then let your husband, this is your choice to stay at home with YOUR child not hers! who cares what people think or say about stay at home moms it's your life and you are doing what's best for your child. if you don't have to put your child in daycare then don't. believe me it's mothers out there that wish they didn't have to put there kids in daycare so don't feel bad about your choice. i put my son in daycare at 8 months and he got sick the first 2 days in daycare so i took him out and ask my sister to keep him while i work. you are so lucky to be able to stay at home with your child i wish i could!

i stay home with my 3 month old daughter and will until she is old enough to talk to go to daycare, also am home with 5 yr old son. It has nothing to do with them and you just have to tell yourself that it isnt worth the energy to get upset, learn to smile and nod, thats what i have to do sometimes.raising your baby is the greatest gift, and im gld your family can afford it. I love every minute of my babies lives. I also go to school at night

Tell your motherin in law to butt out. Iam a stay at home mom and i had some people critisize me about not wanting to put my child in day care but there is to much stuff that goes on in day cares these days for me to even chance going to work. If your able to stay at home than do it. I tell people its not their buisness. If someone tells me Iam not socializing my child well thats bull because I have a moms meet up group/ Playgroup. So for all people who critisize stay at home moms stop being jealous and mind your buisness is what I would say :)

YES! i am soo sick of it...people ask what you do for a living and you tell them and its like they frown apon you.....being a stay at home mom is harder then alot of people think it is....cooking cleaning and taking care of a new baby or even a toddler it only gets harder the older they get so now i just ignor people when they get rude or what ever....my husband makes enough money that he would rather me be a stay at home mom then to send her to day care...i dont have anything agains daycare but with all the stories i just dont trust anyone but my self!

I stay at home with my 3 daughters 7, 5 and 2, I am pregnant again. My husband goes to work, he is happy that I stay home. How can I take care of him if im working? I find I am being judged because I stay home but my children are being brought up the way I want, I also love that when my oldest has something going on at school like sports day, I can go see her compeat. So many ppl can make you feel not worth while because you stay home and its not right. My Foster mother said to me that she doesnt know how I stay home and take care of the kids, she went back to work and had a nanny stay at home with her children. I dont think I would be good at anything else so why upset my kids and try. Any way thats my view. good luck with your family. You could also go to a playgroup with your son or to the park if you think there is a problem with socializing. This way you shut your mother in law up and still spend great time with your son.