How to get over shyness (only child problem?

What do i do about my child father?

• ok so here where im going to start, Ive been going out with my child father for 2 years, Ive just given birth to his child this past dec. around that time i started state cash asst. after coming out of school and not knowing i was prego until the last month of my school. anyways when i met my child father he was amazing, he use to come visit me and not even leave my room because he didnt know any body but me, that was the time we spent so much time together>>> now he started to have problems at home where he didnt want to live their its like the boondocks always quiet, no stores, no people but the one's who walks their dogs i love it at his house>> so it was one day that his parents wanted him to go get help becuse he clams to be stress and clam he was smoking or doing something because he havent been the same. he use to work at a radio station but then quit and now that he have a kid he wants to be out side all day and hang out with his boys who does nothing, have no job , lots of drama. we just started going to court for child support for my child in which i did not sign up for but since im on cash asst. thats whats gots him on child support. and to be honest i do not want to take money from the state anymore like thats people that got a job taxes and i dont need it. i will say it did get me on a good start with my daughter... so my child father gets tired of his mother asking him to get a job. ive told him in nov. that he has to stop smoking when our child is born because it takes up his time and he refuse to come in for a while so i can get a brake and do what i have to do as a mother in which i do not have a problem multi-tasking and he say " in a min" and never come in ive been their for us 90% and him its the 10% he do not think relistically. he is currently living with me at my mother well staying with me. ive told him to go home and he say " i am not going back to my momz house im 21 i cant go back their" everything with him now is ( i this,,, I that) instead of we like im seeing that everything is about him... when it comes to the first of the month he quick to ask me for money and quick to ask me for things when he have a hard time watching his child. im hurt from it because its not right its not only hurting me but its hurting my child because she didnt ask to have just a mother. and im going to take care of her the best way that i can.... just recently ive applyed for a job and it pays real good i work from 10-6 the problem with that is my baby is 4 months she would need to be in day care her father doesnt have a job so i asked him to watch her and bond with her, be there so she can see u for the day instead of half of the day. he goes off " i got stuff to do" im losing money staying in the house" i got to go to the gym".... etc. which is not fair so i had to tell the job i cant take it because of this... ive told him the faster he gets a job get away from his boys and stop smoking the faster i can get our daughter in day care get myself a job and get off state my goal is to get a job and get off state because i dont need them telling me what to do and how to live mylife... in the state of CT any one with a job right now i would like to thank you. i need to do for my own child. what do i do about my child father. telling him to get up and stop being lazy will not work it far deeper than that. im am just fine my daughter the happiest child in the world i love her but i dont know what to do. is what im saying is wrong im starting to give up. sorry this is long

• Answer:

  Work on the relationship and talk heart to heart. You and Dad both might want to follow the links below for additional information.