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Scientific Explanation of why people cry when they are sad?

I don't think the cry-it-out method is a bad thing, why do people keep picking on me for it?

  • Now, I obviously don't think a little tiny baby that is under 2-3 months old should be left to 'cry it out' because they usually need something when they cry. However, as they get older they begin to cry for entertainment reasons, or because they are sleepy etc. I see no harm in letting the baby cry it out if they have already been fed, burped, changed etc (in other words fully taken care of). But people always seem really offended or appalled at the idea of me letting a child cry-it-out and I don't get why they think it's so mean?

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    Because even tho they have been changed, fed, burped...fully taken care of, you have forgotten one important thing...they want to be held and loved. They do cry for a reason....they can't speak words, they only have their crys to let you know I DONT WANT TO BE ALONE!!! They have been in your womb for almost 10 months, your warmth and nourishment is all they know and want for months to come. Any child that you still count months for their age, or even a year, does not need to be left to take care of themselves, thats what CRY IT OUT does, you are removing yourself from the child, so they can lay there all alone and cry. I certainly dont cry to entertain myself. *** No everyone criticize you because, you are asking about a very debatable topic that we have everyday on here. Yes everyone has their own parenting skills and tips. You don;t have to follow them. But if you post it on an open forum like Y!A, expect A LOT of other Mother's to let you know how they feel on it. HEY YOU ASKED! If you dont like it, dont ask. **Ava's Mom...Thats almost what I do , I stay next to her crib, the entire time,she will whimper and toss and turn but within 10 mins of all that she falls asleep. But when she is IM really P"O'd I pick her up and love on her and let her know Im right there and she is safe. And I lay her back down after she is calm and more relaxed and then she falls asleep....But leaving them there and CRYING thier eyes out is totally different and not nessesary... And also for the one poster, not all of us mom's are what you described. Yes I make my own food, its cheaper and healthier, I dont co-sleep, I formula feed, and I belive that a child comes first. I never said she was a bad mother, but what is wrong with loving your child to sleep ?

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"However, as they get older they begin to cry for entertainment reasons..." ?? Who the hell, babies included, cries for 'entertainment reasons'? What do you think the "cry-it-out method" is? Some sort of blanket permission for infant neglect? A scientifically proven method to allow 'parents' to watch television instead of putting their children to bed properly? How is a 'fully taken care of' baby still squalling? Very puzzling...

Do your own thinking!

Because, despite what you think, they're crying for a reason no matter what age.

Bird Flippin'

I use this method on our 6 month old, and it is the method that works for us. Many parents do not use this method, which is fine as well, which ever method works best for you and your baby, is the one to use. Not one parents on the internet say to use. It's your child, you carried, laboured, and birthed them [these people did not] so raise your baby the way you want.

Treasure; <3s BATDOG.

I totally agree with you. Some people are lucky to have such well behaved babies and dont know what its like. I went through the same thing with my girl. Her first 8weeks she slept on me. She cried I jumped sortah thing. Once she hit 4 months that was it. I figured she was doing this for attention so I just let her cry-it-out knowing that she was fed burped and changed. She's so good now. I can now put her down and she will just go to sleep. I dont think it's mean at all.. It worked wonders for me!!

Jess

Fully taken care of includes being held too. My son is 8 months old and I've never let him CIO just because he's "fed, burped, changed, etc (in other words fully taken care of)." That's not ALL parenting is. Sometimes it IS holding your baby because they need snuggles or cuddles. Sometimes it is staying up with them, even when you're tired, because they're fussy about falling asleep. For me I couldn't stand to hear my baby cry and know that I'm allowing it to happen. I understand if you're busy and cannot get to your baby NOW or if you need a few minutes to cool off because you're frustrated, but if you're doing it to "train" your baby to sleep then I disagree. Your baby cries to communicate with you, and it's not your place to ignore this. I personally don't think I could EVER use this method but I am more understanding of it for children over the age of 1, simply because when you get to 2 and 3 years of age your child CAN tell you what's wrong.

N and A's Momma

people keep picking on you because you are on yahoo answers, and some mothers on here have nothing better to do than criticize others for parenting the way they choose to parent. If you disagree, go ahead give the thumbs down; I don't care..... My son's pediatrician recommended that when he was about 8 months old to let him know when nap time is and when bed time is, and it worked. I got him in a routine quickly. I just put him down, and he knew it was time for sleep. His pediatrician was voted best in our city at that time; now he is deceased, Now he is a healthy, happy 4.5 year old who knows how to live by structure. Ignore the critical comments and focus on your child. Good luck.

i don't think there is anything wrong with it

Working Mum

Its completely up to you weather you let your baby cry it out or not. I don't use that method, because I feel there is other ways to calm a crying baby at any age than to let them cry for minutes on end. It does not feel right to me. I don't think your bad mom/person for using cry it out though or would I give you nasty looks if you and I where having a face to face conversation!

Krista and Masons Mama

Well, my advice to you is ignore people who seem this way. You are raising your child the way you want to. As long as your child is fed, cared for, safe and loved I think you are doing fine. Everyone has their own opinions, as I'm sure you have about certain things...what is good for you might not be good for your neighbor. But you both raise your children well.

~~Daniel's Mommy~~

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