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How do I get a job in the NICU?

Being evicted, newborn in nicu help?

  • I got married almost 3 years ago on 3.11.09. We've been together since 11.27.07. We lost our place where we were living due to him not doing community service. We tried to fight it, but we lost. No one would take us in when I was 19 weeks or so pregnant, then his half sister did. He got a job and kept it and my mom helped us get this apartment, He was mad that his hours were cut so he quit and hasn't had a job since. He really hasn't done much applying. He plays video games because he has nothing else to do. I just had a c-section and I'm not able to work yet. But the landlord wants to evict us for two months passed due. I went to get help from welfare and their tying. But the landlord isnt giving us enough time to find out. He knows we just had a newborn a week ago and that hes in the NICU, but he still doesnt seem to care. My husband wont talk to me about being evicted and I told him I was going to leave and take the baby with me, but can he get custody if he was evicted and doesnt have a job? I cant work yet, but I would have a place to go. He won't talk to me about being evicted and I cant tell him to get a job because he says hes not a child and doesnt like to be told what to do. Please answer before 3/6/12

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    "I dont know whether to leave him or not, I dont want to lose my child." Sounds like you are at much greater risk of losing the baby if you stay with this bum. You say you have a place to go? Go. Stop trying to talk sense into him. I don't understand why this is a question, what would compel you to -- after so many awful choices -- want to make another and stay with him.

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A judge will tell him what to do in due course. Yes leave, you have to provide for yourself and your young child. He seems to be OK as he is.

Leave with your baby. It sounds like you have people that are willing to help you. Don't worry your husband can't get custody in the situation he is in. If he does not want to work then forget him. He needs to be there for his family and help provide for you. This isn't about your landlord. I would evict you too. Your husband is able bodied and refusing to work. Perhaps you leaving will force him to grow up and face his responsibilities. Perhaps it won't but at least then you can move on with your life.

Starsfan14

your husband is a lazy selfish bum, first kick him out, then get on welfare yourself until you are able to work, your landlord is not giving you time? you're 2 months behind, so he's given you 2 months, which should be plenty of time!

bubs

the only way he could get costudy was to prove that you are a unfit mother and that he is a better parent. He would have to have a permanent place to live and hold down a job for 6 months

Shelby Laplante

Thank goodness your child has a place to stay and is safe. Sounds like you have to get your stuff together and figure it out soon. I doubt that you'll be able to keep your baby if it seems like you are both unfit to be parents. I would kick it in high gear and figure it out. Tell you man that he has to step up his game and be a man. I think you're on the verge of losing your baby and you don't even know it.

quinnline

Look into laws about eviction in your town. Where I live a landlord has to take you to court to evict you, and a judge hears both sides of the story. If you applied for rent assistance through the state tell your landlord. it takes about 10 days to get a reply. If you need a place to go, take you and the baby to a women's shelter. They are usually safe, and because you have a child you will most likely get a private room for 30 days. In the meantime call charities in your area to try to get help. The Salvation Army often times will help with rent in the one in your town has the funding. Also ask to talk with the hospital social worker. They may know of resources in your community that can help you. Fight the eviction if you can. Call legal aid in your town.

Mom of 2

I have some advice for you; when your husband is in a good mood, try talking to him nicely, sweetly and slowly about applying for a job. Or you can also look for jobs for him that you think he would be interested in, and then try talking him into applying for that certain job. and, also remember to tell him that a baby has needs and if your husband doesn't work, you will have to give him for adoption. Maybe that will kinda scare him and convince him to get a job. :) I hope i helped! And good luck with your baby! <3

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