13 year old in desperate need of help! Please, please, please help me! =(?

I love pageants! They're really fun! You get to know a lot of people and get all glammed up and have a lot of fun (: You should do it!

Dear Hannah, if you have a tv. watch things such as american Idol, and americas got talent. watch the faces of these people who are rejected. it hurts inside and sometimes it makes you worthless. sometimes its the experience that helps. but Hannah , a lot of the beauty pageants are ran but ungodly people who prey on children. There was a little girl who died at only six years old her name was jon benette Ramansy. she was dressed up and taken to all these beauty pageants and her life was not a great one. she was molested murderd. because sweety money makes people do such foolish and stupid things yet its innocence that is ruined. you can have just as much fun playing beauty pageant, contests with your friends, You can also audition for plays at church. stay away from worldly competitions they serve no purpose to those who belong to Christ Jesus. your a smart girl. listen to your mothers advicebeauty pageants they are stupid and most of them are phoney.

beauty pageants are okay. i was in one when i was 7 and it was kind of fun but i lost so it hurt my self esteem, but if you win it could help your self esteem. usually they give you a crown and some kind of prize money if you win, so you get money after it.

1) Personally, I think they are pointless also. Just a bunch of girls getting judged on how they look which only makes them even more self-conscious if they get bad feedback from the judges. Teenage girls are always worrying about how they look and a beauty pageant will make them worry more. 2) Positive: if the judges say something nice about how you look that may make you a little bit less self-conscious about the way you look. Negative: but remember they're only judging you based on what they see on the outside. They don't know your personality which is usually a bit more important than looks. You should worry about personality too. 3) If it's something you really want to do then tell her that. She might understand that you want to try something new and that it might help you gain confidence. However, if she doesn't agree because of her opinion on it you should respect her opinion because she's your mom and moms just want what's best for their kids.

I believe that pageants are good for self esteem, especially when the girl has proper training and interest, where the parents are NOT involved except to cheer you on. It can be very rewarding. Be careful if you love to compete it can become ugly sometimes, not all of these girls are nice. You seem like you are so be careful, don't trust everyone, and shine like you are. Any decision you make where you are being judged can affect you in either a positive or negative way regarding your self esteem. But I believe that anything great takes risk, don't you? The plus is if you get up into the Miss USA and Miss World beauty pageants, you can travel all around the world, you get scholarships, and things you never would have been afforded had you not tried. Well you need to consider how this will all be paid for, because it is a huge financial investment, and that is how you should approach it. As an investment in your future, if this is truly something you want to do. Do some research first so you can go to her with information, it will show her you are truly interested. Good luck Hannah, you are very well put together for a 13 year old and you will do great if you keep your head held high and never give up.