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How can I stop being so worried? How can we become friends again?

• I recently got back in touch with my best friend from preschool. We haven't talked in nine years. (it wasn't because of a fight or anything, we just lost touch because life got so busy.) I found him on facebook and I messaged him. I am sad to say that I'm a little disappointed. When I messaged him I wrote this long message and I was expecting us to become great friends instantly and that we were going to text and skype and planning that our friendship was going to rekindle quickly all over again. It hasn't. It's been 6 days and we started messaging back in forth. My responses are a average for friends getting back in touch. And his are mostly "haha, I know what you mean." well they started longish but now they are like that. He hasn't responded to my message (I asked what high school he's going to) in three days. He's been on facebook, but you know hasn't done a BUNCH of activity. All of his responses to everyone are that short so it's not just me. But, how can I become good friends with him again. I'm expecting him to do all the work I guess, and now I'm the only one asking questions and stuff. Should I like one of his pictures or something? I'm thinking too much about it, but for good reason. Please don't say "it's obvious that he doesn't want to be friends with you again." because he does. He said he was really happy to hear from me again. And I won't give up that easily and say "oh well." because we were too close and I REALLY don't want to lose him again. Question: how can I rekindle our friendship? he isn't really on facebook that much. but when he is and he's on chat, should I go into chat and say "what's up?" "how are you?" Should I pretend we are good friends? I know it's only been a week. I'm getting obsessed and worried that he doesn't want to be friends. (but I know he does.) Would it be a good idea to start texting once we get to become better friends? thanks. should I just give up? am I being to obsessive about it? *****extra info***** our families were SUPER DUPER close 9 years ago. My friend moved up north (while we are in the south.) We are 600 something miles away. my mom and his mom kept in touch, but then lost touch because of life. We all got really busy and things. we spent almost every day all day together. (him and I and our families. we were practically related.***** BQ: has this happened to you before?

• Answer:

  YES IT HAS And let me tell you it is DAMN painful. Especially when you were that close! I do not believe that he doesn't want to be friends with you, I think he just doesn't know what to say...don't forget, he's probably feeling the same. I think message him ask how he's doing, then when you chat, remind him gently of the old times etc. Crack some jokes, tell him a little about yourself, make sure you detail your answers to his questions....he's probably itching to get to know you as much as you are him! Good LUCK! Let me know how it goes....XX + Don't forget he's a BOY and boy's are rubbish at thinking what to say! The conversations will get better once you know him better agin, talk about your favourite music etc. Say you went somewhere you both used to go and it reminded you of blah blah blah....yes.. XX