Help! My boyfriend is smoking behind my back?

Boyfriend wants me to help him quit smoking cigarettes?

• not sure what to do.. we haven't been dating long at all and he wants me to help him quit. he's been smoking for a couple years now. (we're both 18) at first he said he only smokes a few a day but after being around him enough i see he smokes 10-15 cigs per day. a majority of his friends smoke too (i don't.) i have never made an issue of him smoking so this is not my idea whatsoever. i don't know what to do because i know i can't make him quit. i don't want to be that 'controlling girlfriend' that is always nagging her boyfriend about smoking and/or the girlfriend who gets lied to about smoking by a guy because she makes such a big deal out of it. yet at the same time i feel like i should help since he's asking but i don't know how to.. one thing i have been doing is making comments like 'a few cigs a day, huh?' jokingly. ugh, please help me!

• Answer:

  1, elimination of tension: the tight working conditions is the main cause of your smoking? If so, then take away all smoking paraphernalia around you, change the working environment and work procedures. Put some sugar-free chewing gum, fruit, fruit juice and mineral water in the workplace, more several times a short period of rest, outdoor sports movement, the movement a few minutes on the line. 2, weight problems: weight after quitting smoking often significantly increased, generally 5-8 pounds. After quitting smoking will reduce the basic rate of human metabolism, and will eat more food instead of smoking, smokers quit smoking, body weight in a short period of time will increase a few kilograms, but by the amount of exercise to strengthen the body to deal with weight gain, increase physical activity can speed up metabolism. The best snack is fat-free food. In addition, drink plenty of water, so that the stomach is not empty. 3, to quit smoking awareness: a clear goal to change the working environment and the old habit of smoking-related, and smoking cessation will take the initiative to think of the determination of no longer smoking. Have this awareness, quit smoking a few days after the taste and smell will get better. 4, looking for alternatives: quit smoking after one of the main task is to find alternatives to non-smokers: be tempted to do some skill games, so that two hands are not idle, and by brushing the oral cavity to produce a do not want the taste of smoking, or to divert attention by exciting conversation. If you like a cigarette after drinking coffee every morning, you drink coffee every morning will become tea. The bet: the past smokers had quit smoking bet good experience, the effect is one of the open smoking cessation, and strive to get the support of friends and colleagues. 6, less the party: just quit to avoid the temptation of smoking. If a friend invites you to participate in a very good party, the party people are smoking, then at least they quit smoking; initially be politely refused to participate in such gatherings until feel no cravings so far. 7, swimming, playing football and a Turkish bath: often the Games to improve mood, red on the addiction, sports make jittery nerves calm down, and burn calories. 8, throw away smoking paraphernalia: ashtrays, lighters and cigarettes will be on giving up smoking stimuli, they should all throw away. 9, to divert attention: in particular, early in smoking cessation, to spend more money to engage in fun activities, in order to transfer the attention of smoking in the evening do not, as you would normally spend in front of the TV, you can go for a massage, listening to CD, Internet surfing, or with friends on the phone to discuss the stock market.