Is love worth the effort?

I love my stepsister like my real sister and also try make a effort with her but she doesnt make a effort back?

• I love my stepsister like my real sister (not like in love ) and also try make a effort with her but she doesnt make a effort back please help !!! i always treat her like my sister and be really nice to me but it doesnt feel like she loves me back and she doesnt make a effort to be like a sister back to me. i want a good friendship with her What should i do ???? We both girls and she is 6 months older than me. we are 18

• Answer:

  Than don’t make an effort back and see if she responds. I work with a girl, Zara, who is 27 (I’m 19) and she’s like a big sister to me. (I already have 2 big sisters, there’s nothing wrong with them but she’s exactly the same as my sisters are you’d think she was part of the family) I adore her, I’d do anything for her and I think she’s absolutely amazing (like I think of both my real sisters) There was a time though when it always felt like I was giving and was never getting back. She knew I looked up to her as a sister, we had discussed in plenty of times and we always refer to eachother as “like a big sister / like a little sister” but it always felt like I was the one giving. I got sick of it, I got sick of making the effort – not an effort to be like her sister, but I got sick of making an effort to consistently please her like I do my own sisters. So I just drifted away a little. I stopped being so nice to her and literally treated her like I treat my sisters – annoy me, and I’m going to get angry. I think she thought because I looked upto her so much, I’d always be nice to her and wouldn’t dare consider not being nice. But that changed, I got (and I do get) angry with her, I ignored her, I stopped doing little things to help her out etc. and she realised it and asked me what was wrong I just said “Nothing, why?” and she said “I dunno. You seem a little distant” and I was like “Yeah, I know. Just kinda over giving and never getting in-return from anyone” and she didn’t realise I was referring to her, but after I said that stuff and still kept a little distant, I started noticing that she was making more of an effort with me. Like the song/quote says “You don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone” If your stepsister honestly appreciated what you did for her (but maybe was a little unsure how to show it) then she’ll ask you whats up if you pull away. If she didn’t care and she wasn’t interested in having a good friendship, she’ll keep distant.