If adults know what love is, then why are the divorce rates so high?

• And why are my parents divorced? I think it's hyprocritical for adults to point fingers at teens when they don't even know what love is themselves. A divorced mother doesn't have the right to tell her daughter "you are too young to know what love is". I don't think she has a clue of what true love is herself. True love doesn't just give up on the person that they love for another man. She didn't even fight to keep dad. It's like she didn't even care.

• Answer:

  A lot of people find it easier to give up than to try to fix things. Some people jump in too soon and don't know what they're really in for when they say "I do". Some think love is only a feeling and that when those feelings are gone, so is the relationship. Others feel their life has become monotonus and miss the thrill of the "hunt". I think a lot people need a good reminder as to just what a life long commitment is. I'm not saying divorce is never necessary. Sometimes we find ourselves in impossible and unfixable situations. But I do think that people should think twice and seek counseling before they divorce because they "feelings aren't the same". You can't expect to always have those butterflies in your stomach when you've been married to the same person for 15 years. I believe teens can be just as in love as adults. But, I believe that many are not mature enough to make it last. I was very much in love with my boyfriend when I was 16 and we thought we would be together forever. But things change, problems arise and if both of you are not able to face these changes with maturity, then there is little chance of the relationship working out. I also believe that while you can love someone as a teen, the love is probably not as deep as you will experience as an adult. Life experiences (especially those that you go through together) are what causes that deep, deep, unconditional love. Again, I loved my high school boyfriend (Travis) very much. In fact, the love I have for my husband (Eric) is the only love that has ever exceeded what I felt for Travis. When I married Eric, I knew I loved him; I didn't think I could love him any more than I already did. Well, 5 years later, I find I love him more. I love him more with each passing day. Do I always have butterflies in my stomach? No. Do I ever have one of those days where I just want to give up and walk away? Yes, but I don't. Love is a rollercoster. There will be ups and downs. Those downs may even last several months, but they *will* pass. And when they do, you realize you love your spouse even more. The commitment is worth it. The bad days (weeks, months) are worth it in the end. If you love your boyfriend, try to keep the relationship strong. Don't sweat the small stuff. But if the time comes where you realize that maybe he's not the best person for you, be strong enough to accept it. The person you love should bring out your best qualities and vice versa. Good luck hun! :)