What time should a 10 yr old go to bed all week, Is my Dinner Time off, and how can I make her go to bed b4 me?

I agree that 11 is too late. During school week it should be no later than 9pm. It's good that the grandparents provide her with dinner. When she does go to bed do you stay with her/read her a story etc until she falls asleep. I think it is a case of persistence to send her to bed early. On the weekends, it is different. Sunday - Thursday: 9pm Friday & Saturday: 11pm. I think it may be an idea for mum, dad and daughter to sit down and talk about the new bed time roster. She may throw a tantrum several times but it is only through your & your husband's perseverance that you can modify her behaviour. Perhaps a glass of warm milk with some of the sleeping powders (Horlicks) may encourage her to sleep. Explain that you need your own mum & dad time and that she needs to be in bed. I think it is a case of negotiation, agreement then hanging in there until she falls into line.

She needs to be made to do her homework at her grandparents house. If she can't then hire a babysitter to keep her that will help get her homework done. I don't know how she isn't getting in trouble at school? You then need to put your foot down and make her go to bed at a decent hour. I understand you're getting home late and that may be something else to look into. Maybe make dinner the night before at your house and eat it the next night for supper so you don't have to cook anything. Also, make meals that are quick and easy so maybe you can monitor your daughter getting her homework done. By 9 pm she should be showered and lying down even if she doesn't go to sleep. You have to be the parent and set the rules.

i say at 9

you asked this 2wks ago & got 15 answers. Read them http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiHWPchUpsRTlBlGeX4HyNfty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20110220072209AAnd8BU You can't force a child to go to sleep but you can set a time for them to be in bed resting or reading

11pm is way too late for a 10yo. You're right that she needs more sleep, for her health and sanity! The right amount of sleep will kickstart her metabolism properly, help her to stay alert and focussed at school and improve her general wellbeing. You also need some time in the evenings to be with your husband - this is important for your own sanity and the health of your relationship. I would suggest making some major changes in your lives. Try to eat dinner at home more often, and set a reasonable bedtime that you can achieve. My 11yo daughter goes to bed at 8.30pm so we make sure we're always home by then. It's that simple. We're less strict about bedtime on the weekends although if we happen to be home and there's no movie on that she wants to watch, her bedtime is the same on weekends and she understands that. You will need to sit your daughter down and explain the reasons for changing things in a way that makes snese to her, You also need to make it VERY clear that this is NOT up for negotiation and then STICK TO THAT. If you give in once, you'll have made a rod for your own back. It's very hard to change an established routine, even if it's a bad one... Good luck! :)

Put her in bed at 9. Don't let her watch television and if she throws a fit then punish her by taking away a privilege for the following day. She is old enough to know better. You're the parent don't let her run your house.

i would say 9 to 9:30 and if she doesn't like look at supernanny for getting kids to stay in bed.

Just. Chill it's fine

Her dinnertime is pretty late. Can't you or your husband pick her up on your way home and the other one make dinner as soon as they come in? She throws a fit if she can't go to bed the same time as you? Um...so what? She's ten. She should be in bed by 9 at the latest. Your her mum, not her best friend - send her to bed then. If she throws a fit, I'm sure the wardrobe will love listening to it. And it's past time you stopped eating with mummy and daddy every day. Your daughter is _ten_. You are an adult.