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7 years old - boy and girl play date, is this ok?

  • My 7 year old daughter has had many play dates with her girl friends, recently we had a nice boy come over for a play date. We did not know what to do with them, so we just let them play up in her room like she would with her girl friends. After the play date was over, I asked my daughter what they played in her room and she would not tell me, she said that it was a secret and the boy told her not to tell us. We didn't push her to tell us, but after a few days went by I told my daughter that we don't keep secrets and she has always been told not to keep secrets from us. She then told us that they played tickle games and they were silly and smelled each others feet, armpits and butts. I was not to crazy about this especially when she told me how they smelled each other butts (one laid down on the floor while the other sat on the others face). For smelling the other armpit, she lifted her shirt up and he smelled her armpit. She laughed about it and said it was a funny game. Of course, it is all innocent to her and fun. Is this just silly games with kids or are we out of line when we say now that we will probably not have boy play dates anymore. This boy is a really nice boy and very polite, but I didn't like hearing that he told her to not tell us what they played in her room and how quickly she was to do what he said after all the years of telling her she can come and tell us anything. Are we over reacting? We just think this is the first step to more games like spin the bottle etc...

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    boys and girls often play games like dr. and tickle games because they are starting to get to be at the age where they notice they are different and so naturally they are going to be curious it is perfectly normal and it is innocent it is not sexual curiosity it is just curiosity in general you need to explain to her that unless it is mommy or daddy or the doctor it is not ok to show your body to anyone and is it not ok for them to touch you in bathing suit areas. i would still let them have a play date just keep an eye on them.

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They are still young enough to play together, but probably too old to play games like that. Let them play together again, just sit in the living room with them or something- make sure they're not by themselves without supervision because that could lead to less-than-appropriate games.

Mel

Supervise. Doors open. Frequent checks. Play in a public area where you can see. Probably should be doing that anyways. Girls can do the same thigns with other girls. Or more.

asrai

I was with you until the butts part. Next time just supervise as they play, tell her to leave her bedroom door open. Tickling (with clothing on) is fine. I have a feeling that something like this has nothing to do with the gender of the children they are just at that age.

Rosanna

Next time have planned games for them to play - chutes and ladders, card games, art projects etc to keep them entertained but not all by themselves.

elaeblue

I don't think you should not allow coed play dates. just maybe teach her to be more careful with her self and maybe keep a closer eye on them

thyroid

THEY ARE 7 YEARS OLD!!!!! THEY ARE NOT THINKING ABOUT SEX!!!!!! Jeez, mom, lighten up!!!

Serene E

Well, I think that it's important to have a talk with your daughter about "private parts" anyway (not in relation to this incident, but just so she knows what kind of things are not appropriate) and explain to her that no one is allowed to see (besides mommy or a doctor) or touch her anywhere that would cover a bathing suite, same as she's not allowed to touch anyone else there- and that even if someone tells her not to tell- it is very important that she comes and tells you! (If she wouldn't tell you because a 7 year old boy told her not to, she could possibly not tell you in a situation where an adult tells her not to) Other than that, I'd keep a closer eye on them- try to avoid having them play in the bedroom, don't tell her not to- but just try to keep their attention in the living room. It's perfectly normal for kids to play "silly" games when left to their own devices (She probably would've done the same if it were a female friend).

Irenie Leigh

Don't over react or get upset in front of her because then she will want to know why. And if you don't let them play together anymore she will want to know why. Like you said, he is a very nice and polite boy, so why should they both be punished by not letting them play together. They are both just being kids. All kids need to be watched when they play so just make sure they play where you can see them. I don't think she was trying to keep something from you, it was just part of a silly game.

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