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Is hitting a child abuse!?

  • Well for a long time there has been some debate on what is the best way to discipline a child, every individual parent has a different view on this topic. Some Studies have even said hit children have a lower IQ but I think this could only be possible with constant blows to the head the head is a very delicate part of the body and can cause brain damage if hit anyway. In the recent Decade we have heard a lot about out of control Youth's and how they were not hit enough as kids and therefore were left to rule the house and run out of control. But seriously isn't it more understanding to sit the child down and explain what they did was wrong, hitting could make the bum go redder the more it is hit, leave mark's and scar's if hit with a implement such as a belt, slipper, or paddle, and caned of course can leave mark's to the hand isn't it just contradiction to say to a little child obviously You would say as any good parent don't hit that child it is wrong, and also why would You hit a small child of 4 for spilling a drink, if it can't defend itself . Is this abuse or the parent losing control ?

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    Hitting a child for accidentally spilling a drink is very very wrong. I think smacking should only be used when you have a disobedient, child for whom, sitting down and talking to them has not worked, and the child is causing harm either to himself or others. I thought i could raise my child without smacking at all, I tried naughty step, took away his toys and treats etc but he harassed and fought his sister to such an extent that I had to smack him to stop him - and it worked!! I dont smack every day - its a very rare occurrence, and I have found this makes it more effective - because my children KNOW how serious I am when I smack them - they know I dont smack for minor offences. I only smack if my child is continually and deliberately doing something that I have asked them not to do, and especially if what s/he is doing is causing harm to himself or others, OR has the potential to do so.

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Hitting a child is not politically correct, but sometimes it is necessary. Remember, context is everything. If you must strike the child it must be for the right reason, at the right time, at the right place, and the location of the blow and amount of force used should be taken into account. As long as it is not callous abuse, and is justified, then go right ahead. A lot of mothers will tell that this isn't the way, but they got lucky and produced docile children. A brat sometimes deserves a good smack upside the head. Also, if it makes you feel any better, striking children as a disciplinary measure has been around since humans have begun to live in the family unit, so do not see it as "abnormal" or "sick", as Oprah would have you think it is.

Well, personally I even consider slapping to be abuse. You should explain things to your kids instead of hitting them. When I was 7, my friend would be slapped and spanked by her grandmother, she hated it and hated her grandma for it. Really, I just find it to be better to talk to your kids instead of being violent.

Solar

I raised more than 100 children, over forty years, and never hit any of them. Personally I feel that hitting someone smaller than you is cowardice, even if not legally child abuse.

skruff

i want Hit a child just disabling them with the time out naughty step our corner

hitting children is wrong in my opinion, they are small, you are big.

It boils down to common sence. Obviously you dont hit a 4 year old for spilling a drink. And there's a difference between spanking for discipline and hitting out of anger. Some kids respond better to being spanked. My 2 year old obviously doesnt listen to reason and you can beg him all day to get up and walk and not roll around on the sidewalk infront of a parking lot. But he will cxontinue to do so. Pop that butt and he jumps right up and does exactly what he is supposed to. SOmetimes I can talk to my older son and explain that he cant do something but sometimes he needs his butt popped before he'll take me serious too. You have to know your own child and what they wil lrespond best to.

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I won't use the word "hit" but I do spank my children as a last resort or for dangerous things. My child runs out into the street, I spank. My younger son (age 8) went through a very short lived phase last year of thinking it was funny to just run from me when I tried to talk to him about his behavior. One spanking and he decided it was better to hang out and listen to my lecture! I don't think that spanking is always the solution for my kids. I feel there are many other ways of disciplining without having to resort to spanking for every broken rule. But it's not abuse if done without anger or long lasting injury (a red rear end is not long lasting, bruises are). I never spank when angry. I give myself a time out if I'm angry. I also limit it to one swat per rear end cheek.

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