My son's school is not allowing him to go on his eighth grade field trip because of his medical issue?

If he can't go he deserves your money back!

I personally don't feel that they are justified in denying your son access to the field trip. He has offered to do both bring a rubber sheet, as well as wear night diapers, which will already make him feel uncomfortable and awkward. If they wont let your son go on the field trip, you should be entitled to the fee that you paid. It would be different if you had cancelled the trip, but the ball was in their court, and I would demand your money back. Would your son possibly be allowed to bring his own tent? I would call and ask. Perhaps if you have the time, you would be able to join him on the trip as a chaperone. That way, they can't argue that he's alone in a tent. I would recommend calling the school board and taking it up with them. I find it terribly wrong that they are denying him in the first place when you've offered options that will keep all of the other kids out of the problem. Explain everything to them, as well as the fact that if they are still not going to let your son go, you demand a refund for the monies that you paid back in January. I'm sorry you guys are going through this. It's not your son's fault, and he's being treated like a wild animal. Good luck!

Tell the school that they need to let your son go on the field trip or you will sue them. People have sued over less, and won. The school definately needs to reimburse you for the money if they don't let him go. It's discrimination that they are prohibiting him from attending. However, it it unrealistic to expect that his sheets can be washed every night if they are supposed to be camping. So your son will probably have to wear the disposable diapers. They make diapers that look pretty much like regular underwear and as long as he has a private place to change his clothes, he should be fine.

Perhaps it would be best that he stay home. Diapers, rubber sheets, just washing his sheets are all humiliating. Keeping him home and maybe get him a new video game will be less stressful. The school should refund the money. It is absolutely absurd that they think they are going to keep the money. Threaten to take them to small claims.

Is this a public school trip? You may have a case for discrimination. Public schools are required to make adjustments for students with disabilities. To have them deny a student due to medical reasons is very risky and pening them for a lawsuit.

Thats terrible. Im sorry your son has to go through this condition at his age. Im im even more sorry that he was denied to go on a field trip based on this. And i find it outrageous that they are not giving you your money back. I hope you go see a lawyer (even though it will cost more for a lawyer i would just do it on basic principal. That school sounds horrible). And also im glad to hear you dont force him to wear diapers which is saving him from further embarrassment. Good luck to you and your son.

What complete nonsense. Nobody would "deal with wet clothing and sheets" on a daily basis instead of wearing a diaper. You really do have a bizarre little fetish there.

This screams of discrimination. I would call the school board and a lawyer. Everyone here is correct. They cannot discriminate because of medical conditions, they must attempt to accommodate by law. You boy deserves to go and is well old enough to take care of his own accidents at night. I would suggest adult diapers that fit well and can hold a lot, try them at home for a few nights first so he's comfortable, and see if they leak. These would be easier to deal with than him peeing in his underwear or pj's and wet sheets. A good sleeping bag that's waterproof, and he is all set. He can explain the diapers to his tent mates and say they are from his doctor and he is waiting for surgery later. Most would understand and probably look out for him. Don't stand for this for one minute!!!

I'm not sure what the laws are like where you live, but it might be worth investigating. Where I'm from (Canada) it's illegal to discriminate against a person because of a medical condition unless it would significantly be a threat to the person's safety. Now, I think the school would have hard time making a case for how bedwetting would be a threat to his personal safety. In Canada, a school would be legally obligated to accommodate your son under the reasonable accommodation act. In any case, I would hate to think that legal action would be necessary. It's not as if your son has some weird unheard-of disorder with complicated medical requirements--bedwetting is, albeit not _as_ common in 14-year-olds as in younger children--still common enough with a simple enough solution that I'm incredulous as to how a school would be ill-equipped to deal with this kind of thing! I guess, short of contacting a lawyer (or threatening to contact one at least), the only suggestion that I have is to impress upon the school that your son would take personal responsibility for his medical needs, and the school wouldn't have to do anything extra for him or give him any special treatment. Before yelling at them, try to reason with them and tell them that you understand they have safety concerns and policies, but your son knows perfectly well how to take care of himself, and you're confident that there won't be any problems. Anecdotally, a very good childhood friend of mine wet the bed until he was 12 and got surgery, but he never failed to participate in school and Scout camps, no matter whether we were staying in hotels or tents! He simply wore his night diapers, and the organizers made sure he only ever shared a room with his good friends. Camps wouldn't have been the same without having my best friend there, and his bedwetting never caused the slightest problem for him.