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What a parent can do to encourage sibling affection between infants and the preschool siblings?

Sibling rivalry is a..........?

  • .. parenting failure and is NOT an automatic or natural condition of childhood. My older brother hated me, we hated our little sister and we had a very competitive, angry relationship all because our parents FAILED to prepare us to love, respect and WELCOME each other into the family. We saw each other as thiefs who took away the love and attention we had from mom & dad but never realized that our very ignorant parents set it all up by failing it teach and train us to love and welcome our new siblings. It's such a shame to realize now that we could have been best, beloved friends all those years instead of bitter, fearful, angry siblings who had many serious fights all because mom & dad could not do the right thing when we were born. Sibling rivalry is stark evidence of serious parental failing and child NEGLECT. How about you? Are you a fighting sibling or a loving sibling? Are you a helping parent or a damaging parent? Can you admit that your kids fight all because of your own inadequacies as a parent? What's the solution?

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    LOL.No. My parents have always encouraged my brother and I to be close, but we still argue a lot. It's just our personalities clash. Nothing to do with parenting.

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"What's the solution?" Sniggering at you, for a start. No, sweetie, everything which is wrong in your life is not somebody else's fault. Edit: Look at the date on this question of yours. You've been beating this dead horse for _five years_? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AiHOggiKDwrZrnxpY.IdKqjty6IX;_ylv=3?qid=20060718214827AAad9lN You get one life. What are you going to do with it - whine like a spoiled toddler, or get over what your parents did or didn't do?

cathrl69

I have to disagree with you there. I've got a brother and sister (I'm a girl) and we fight a lot. I mean, if we're talking, like, ultra-mega-super-i-wanna-kill-you fights, then no, obviously. But seriously, if it's just arguing and hitting or whatever, it's natural. I yell at my sister, she yells at me. I hit my brother, he hits me. Come dinner time, it's the end of our problems. Back to whatever. You get along real well until, I don't know, 3rd or 4th grade. Then they just become annoying siblings. You're going to have trouble finding siblings who don't have a rivalry. It has nothing to do with parents "failing to prepare us to love, respect, and welcome each other into the family". My parents were great parents. We're Christian. We understand the "do unto your neighbor" stuff. I mean, I went to Catholic school with ultra-crazy-holy people and NOBODY got along perfectly with their siblings. Siblings. Fight. No. Matter. What. But whatever. Believe what you want.

Spongebob

Pretty much, the deal with siblings is to make it them (the kids) against you (the parent) so they ally together and find ways to work it out without you. Kids will fight together and that is normal, not all sibling rivalry is abnormal at all but part of learning to deal with other people - everything we will know about other people and getting along we first learn from dealing with our sibs. So, yes and no, neglect? Eh, my kids need to work it out as I can't solve it for them, if I try they will resent each other and feel cheated and I am not the one who is going to be around most of their life, their sib is - so sibling relationships kind of take precedence in effort and work.

Ethel

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