Cancer camps that a 14 yr old can volunteer at?

My friends 14 yr old son yells ALL the time at his 7 yr old brother?

• I just moved next door to a close friend of mine. She has 2 boys. 7 & 14 yrs old. They come over almost everyday after school. The 7 yr old gets here with his 9 yr old sister & they play outdoors just fine together. The older boy arrives after his school lets out an hr later. The entire time he's here he continuously bosses and yells at the younger child. I asked the little one to carry a bucket for me and before he could get it the older boy grabbed it yelling "Taylor, leave that alone, Put it down" And he grabs it and moves it for me before I can stop him. I tell him to put it back so taylor can carry it for me like I asked. He does but the younger child just leaves & goes home. I have talked to the big brother about letting me correct taylor if he needs it, that I am the grown up etc... but it doesn't do any good. My husband gets angry because after working all day he has to listen to this noise while showering, eating, tv watching... I have spoken to his mom and she says it never happens at their house. Excuse me?? I am over there & the whole family screams and yells and says horrible things to one another. I like the older son but he drives me nuts. I also don't want their mom to make them stay home instead of visiting because of this. The 14 yr old has the mentality of a 10 yr old. I'm sure that has something to do with it. he doesn't hang out with kids his age. My kids are grown. I have a 24 yr old son with a mild disability still at home and he gets along with all 3 of them but says the older boy never stops bossing everybody around. My son likes to stay outside & do yard work so he gives them little tasks to keep them occupied. But the whole time he's outside this child is aggravating him with his behavior. I have no idea on how to help this young man stop being so bossy all the time.

• Answer:

  if you can, give them a seperate job, in different bits of the garden. start the younger ones off before the big one gets there. when he shows up, give him a different job, in a different corner. then thank them all for each job individually. or, if he has the mentality of a 10 year old, try making it a game. who can collect the leaves quietest. biscuit for the winner... all silent, all get a biscuit. or just ask the mum if you can try having the 2 younger ones to help you, while the bigger one has quiet time at home to do his homework un-disturbed.