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Do You Think It's Rude To Not Show Up At A Birtday Party Without a gift or a card?

  • Now, I can care less about gifts and toys(they just crowd up my house!), but I think a handmade card is common curtsey at a birthday party if you don't buy a gift. My son recently had his 6th birthday party. Two children showed up with nothing. They showed up after all of the activities were done(which I later learned they'd done on purpose from their mother)and just stayed for pizza and cake, grabbed their goodybags and left. No card, no nothing. Now I'm not trying to raise spoiled, greedy kids, but me and my son noticed that niether of those kids brought as much as a homemade card. Now, I don't know their financial story, but according to my son, they told him right after he invited him to the party, that they just come to the party for food. I talked to their mom and asked if they were having some troubles at home, she said no. When I told her about the party and what they did, she said that she knows and she told them to do so. She told me that you should always do that(c)

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    It is extremely rude. My daughter is 4 and one of her friends' family is struggling financially. At my daughters last birthday party this little girl was the first to show up and kept my daughter company until other kids arrived. They all had a ball playing (indoor play gym). When it came time for presents this little girl made my daughter the sweetest card, and you could tell she had put time into it, and her mother had written in it for her. I think parents should teach their children that something simple and inexpensive can make a great gift when money is tight. And I don't think any mother should allow her children to just show up and eat all the food, take the goodie bags and run. The point of a party is for all the children to have fun together. I guess next time I would suggest you give them pizza first, followed by the fun games and such, then the cake, followed by more playtime and activities, and goody bags as they leave. That way the kids can't just come for food and treats.

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No, I agree, I think it is rude. The least their parent's could have done was to buy them a card to give to your son. It's rude, definitely.

alexrawrgers

I think that's just down-right greedy and rude. There's nothing you can do but not invite them next year.

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I agree with you. That's just a little weird. I'd feel the same way. I'd understand if they were poor and had no money...but they are just there for the pizza and cake!!! Those are going to be some rotten kids she's raising.

fromthecabbagepatch

it doesn't seem like the children aren't at fault here, so i wouldn't let that incident break apart their friendship with your son. i would just try to steer clear of the mom...

andaredballoon8

You're definitely not over reacting. I agree that most kids have way too much stuff already, but to not show up with anything is extremely rude! And just coming to your son's party for the food and goody bag? I mean come on, how could their mom let them do that?

Kayla :-)!

i agre with you thats rude never invite those kids agian not even to your house that will teach em but mostly the mom thats not wat everone is doing when i go to parties i always buy a gift

i <3 munkiies,munkey shawtiie

that is unacceptable and I would, in the future, close the door to the party after it has started. I dont feel you have to bring a gift, as long as you bring your heart. If there is love felt by the people in the room, the gift is already being given, however, this is not the case. I would give people 15-20 minutes to be late and after that, answer the door, "sorry, the party has already begun. We don't accept late company, it upsets my and then fill in the blank with gramma, dog, husband, kid, whoever you want to blame it on. And dont invite them back. You are celebrating your child's birth and if they are not prompt by at least a decent means, then their intent is not in his interests.

la madre de quattro

wow thats very rude!!!! and i can't believe the mom told you that!!!! wow.... i think if its your sisters house your going to and you really don't have the money then its fine, because your family and normally sisters not each others business,lol.. but the home made card is an awesome thing to do, when you don't have money!! there is a family member on my husbands side,she comes to pasrtys all the time, and no food,drinks,gifts, and she brings her 3 kids,her self, and husband to eat!!!! i think its rude and they have money to bring a 6 pack on soda!!!! anywho, i wouldn't let your kids around the others if those kids are veing raised like that form there mom, then there going to be no good!! i know there kids, but heck you gotta do what needs to be done.. You don't want your kids introuble because there friends say its ok to shoplift because there mom says its ok!!, well now i'm going overboard,lol... but yes i agree with you.

Keira's mama 2009

There is no doubt that this is rude (and strange) behavior. I can tell that the mom is not a Miss Manners reader! A card is an absolute minimum requirement. Anyone can make a homemade card. I think it is very strange that they told your son they would just come to the party for the food.

Kaetra

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