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What happened to Gus from Eastenders a few months ago?

I haven't been feeling like myself lately :( i guess it's due to what happened 7 months ago ( help please)?

  • hi so im getting frustrated with myself im pushing everyone away i don't act like myself i don't dress like myself because i don't want attention from men like the old me would wear shorts in spring or dresses but now all of a sudden i don't wanna wear shorts or anything cute so men can't see my legs or stare or look because that makes me uncomfortable and i don't know if its normal since i was (sexually assaulted) he didn't have sex with me but he did touch me after i pleaded him to please stop but he was too strong and he was being rough with me... it happened 7 months ago ( i know i need to get over it and im sorry) but it still feels like it happened recently i loss my self respect and dignity and i don't know how to get it back TO LOVE MYSELF AGAIN i miss the old lanie which is me question: is this NORMAL? thanks

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    Awh i feel for you honestly my only advice would be do you want that guy to still be hurting you in your head? Although he hasn't psycially touched you since he has mentally scarred you and its affected your look on life. Just think " do you know what i'm not gonna let that asshole rule my life anymore and mess with me mentally i'm gonna go out be myself and show everyone that no one can hurt me and knock me down!" be strong! easier said then done take little steps at a time and talk to someone mayvbe a family member or a friend, good luck hun! <3

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It is normal. Your reliving the events in your head, coming up with scenarios of how you could've avoided it ( and avoid it in the future) when in fact you couldn't. With some proper counseling, I'm sure you can find your "old" self.

I am so sorry that happened to you sweetheart. You have to remember that none of that was your fault. You did nothing wrong. Many of us have been sexually assaulted before and it is no fun. What you are going through is normal and it will pass. Just please don't become a man hater. Best wishes and all my prayers.

I think it's normal. Just be selfish. Have some time to yourself!

yes its normal you suffered something tragic. i understand how you feel. its going to take some time. to regain your trust with people around you. i wish you lots of luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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No, no, no, no, no. You need to talk to someone about this. It is NOT easy to get over being sexually assaulted. This is completely normal. You do not want to wear what would be "attractive" or "summer" clothes, because you don't want the attention from other guys. It may not seem like it, but it really messes with your brain when something traumatic (sexual assault) like that happens. I think you should call a hot line for teens that have been sexually assaulted. They'll help you figure out what's best for you, & help you get back to your old you-- because every day you don't wear the clothes you would normally wear, the person who assaulted you wins. You don't want him to win. Private message me if you need help finding a hot line, or would just like to talk to me.

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It is normal; it takes time to get over something like that. I think it might be best to talk to someone about what happened. It might make you feel better, you know? If someone knew. Take some time for yourself. It's perfectly natural that you want to push everyone away. You don't want to let anyone close enough to hurt you again. But, yes, there is a but; sweetie, there are people out there that won't hurt you. It might take you some time to realize that; but you shouldn't be rushed into feeling better. Take all the time you need to feel yourself again. Good luck, honey.

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