We have been asked to pay for some "Wedding Favors"?

I would consider that contribution my gift. I feel her request was very improper to begin with.

nope no extra gift. helping contribute to the planning/decorating is your gift! she won't be suprised.

WHAT????? This is insane. This is definitely NOT normal, the gall of these people has seriously astounded me. I think I was just like a cartoon character where my eyes bugged all the way out when I read your post. These are friends, I would call that mother back and say, "I'm sorry, I misunderstood what you were asking me, its not possible for me at this time to contribute to your daughters wedding fund" and hang up. I would also rethink attending this wedding.

wow...sounds tacky in my opinion.

No, it is NOT proper wedding etiquette to ask for money to pay for "favors" that is traditionally the Brides parents expense. In lieu of a gift, simply give a wedding card with the check for the "favors" and leave it at that. I would consider the whole thing very rude and presumptuous.

wow, I certainly would not be happy with that at all. My wedding favors cost me a whole $30 lol. (I'm cheap and know how to spend money wisely and where......) I That is very rude and tacky for her to send a thank you note before you even helped her out!!! WHAT THE F...... is that all about? Thats so rude!!!! Thats just like asking for more than she should get. If someone sent me a note that said thanks for the $150 gift you WILL be donating to us. thats tacky, thats horrible. I wouldnt buy them a gift. I'd buy them a card that says congratulations. Your generous (holyshyt) donation of $150 on wedding favors was more than you should have EVER had to do for her. She's not YOUR daughter.. geesh. Sorry I just hate it when people go outside of family and friends for help... especially financial assistance. they're not family, they shouldnt have askedf or that much.

I have never heard anything more rude and cheap in my life! If you ask around with other guests you will probably find you are not the only ones. I bet they have asked others to contribute for other things too! I would not buy a gift. I would send a card, saying that you hope that they enjoyed your contribution to their wedding. Asking for a gift as well is just rude...and pushing the friendship a bit far!!

is this family putting the names of who paid for what on the invitations?? if you do end up paying they better put your name on it.... also that is not right to throw it on you like that especially if your not realated to them you should respond to the email saying that you had not given her an answere yet and that you have to check with your husband or check your expenses first and youll let her know if its possible to help her out... she obiously doesnt care abut you she just wants this paid anyway possible, i personally wouldnt do it.... has she even talked to you directly asking you???

I think it's improper for the bride to request financial contributions from her friends and not her immediate family. This is her event and you are an invited guest! I think since you have to pay for a hotel room in order to attend the wedding, plus contribute to her wedding favor cost you should skip the wedding gift. Contribute to the favors and send her the check with a nice card or note basically stating that in lieu of another gift you are purchasing her favors. I don't think any other gift is necessary. And I don't think the bride should expect another gift. You've spent enough money.