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How To Get Him To Propose?

How do I get a guy to propose when we have not been together for long but have been through a lot?

  • How do I get my boyfriend to propose? We have only been together for 5 months but have been through a lot! We were only together for 1 month when we found out that I was pregnant. We moved right in with each other. We recently lost our baby after preterm labor at 17 1/2 weeks. It brought us even closer and we have decided to try again in 6 months. I want him to ask me to marry him before we get pregnant again. He said he thought about marriage but needed time. I don't need time because I have been married before and know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. I know what love is but he has not been married and is 6 years younger than me. Should I propose to him? I just don't want to get turned down. What should I do? Also, I have been seperated from my husband for almost a year and it will be finalized in early December. I don't know if he is waiting for that to talk to me about when we might get engaged. With the loss of our child, it will help me cope.

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    DO NOT plan to try again for another baby if he isn't "ready" for marriage!!! I can't stress this enough, having a baby does not constitute the "right" to be married and live happily ever after. Marriage is tough work -- all the time! Don't let anyone tell you any differently! I know that joys of having a baby, I know what that is like with someone you really love. I know how hard it is with a baby and a new marriage -- this is experience talking. This isn't a lecture, please don't take it as that. I am just giving you some facts. If he can't be married and love you and want to make it work, what makes you think that he can do that with a new baby in the picture? If he isn't ready to commit as a Husband, he isn't ready to commit as a Father. God only gives you as much as you can handle and I want you to know that you have my sympathy with the loss of your child, but there is a plan for everyone and God's plan was in effect when you lost your child. It is hard, it hurts, it pains your every fiber (again, experience) but, you have to be "ready" for all of it -- not just what you choose. -EZ

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You are still married. You have a bf. You got pregnant but lost the baby. You've known your bf for 5 months. You want to "get" your guy to propose to you. Even one of these things is reason enough to NOT be thinking about marriage. But all of them? You are way too immature to be considering marriage under these circumstances. Although 6 years younger than you, your bf has the brains in the relationship. Let him make the decisions.

kja63

It sounds like you have been so busy being involved in relationships that you haven't had time to want to spend the rest of your life with yourself. Try being happy were you are at the moment instead of looking at the rest of your life. Also think back to the feeling you had as you married your first husband, didn't you really think that you wanted to spend the rest of your life with him too?

Mike B

Don't "get a guy to propose" Either propose to him or wait for him to do it on his own will.

mrs michelle

Move out, live seperately and tell him you wont have sex until after marriage. You'll find out really quickly if he is serious.

cobyja

5 months? Sleep on it for another 7 months.

Conscious-X

You cannot rush this man into marriage. From the sound of it, you've already rushed into a serious relationship with him. You haven't even become legally divorced yet and you've already moved in with someone else and become pregnant. I cannot imagine the loss of a child, but rushing off into marrying this man is not the answer to coping with your grief. Give it some time. If you truly love him now, you should still feel the way another year or two down the line. Get to know each other and learn to communicate first. Give yourself time to get over the failure of your first marriage and recover from losing your child.

Sativa

Does the word propriety mean anything to you?

Kay

You can't make anyone ask you to marry you. If he is reluctant to jump to it, maybe he isn't ready. It sounds as if you both are jumping the gun. Take time to get to know each other. Be friends first and see where that leads you. Getting married isn't going to help the loss of a child. Only God and time can do that. I had two miscarriages in 1 year, and my husband couldn't help me get over it because HE was trying to get over it. Please don't jump into marriage because of a pregnancy or anything else. Take your time!

ROBIN P

Just be patient. 5 months isn't long enough to wait. It just seems like you've been together a long time since you've had issues. And getting engaged will not help you cope with the loss of your child. If you need therapy, get therapy

Frank

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