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My fiance wants to go to a strip club for his bachelor party. I don't want him to!?

  • We've been together for almost ten years. Ever since we were both in high school. We've been through it all! Now its time to tie the knot and I just don't think I'll feel okay with a bunch of naked girls dancing on him and he's gonna get turned on by them. I think that a couple's intimacy is between them only. So why should he go out and look and fondle or women to satisfy himself if he has me. He's never wanted one before, so why now? It would hurt me and make me lose respect for him if he goes. Why is it okay with some couples. doesn't it hurt that he could be with another women and want them the way he does you? It looks as though I'm not that special anymore if just any woman can turn him on and he can want just any of them. I trust him, its just a matter of being comfortable. If I were to go to a male strip club it wouldn't be the same, they'll be covered but the girls would be totally naked. Its the last blow out before we get married, but we've been together for ten years, we haven't exactly been "free" so why now and what does this "free" night mean? I know guys, some will tell him its ok to sleep with another girl one last time, then he'll come home and use their argument against me to justify any actions that he knows are wrong... he says he would be okay if I got male strippers. ofcourse he would because he knows I wouldn't and even if I did they're covered and gay. they won't be the fully naked and completely straight strippers he's going to have.

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    Okay, bachelor parties are NOT ancient and sacred at all. I didn't want my husband going to a strip club either. But I knew he thought it very traditional and his best man wanted to take him. His family already thinks I'm a bit of a stiff 'cause I don't like the whole club scene and don't agree with a lot of their opinions. So to show them I can be laid back I let him go to a strip club for his bachelor party. It wasn't until a couple months after our wedding that I was looking through his laptop bag for a usb plug that I found a picture of a naked woman sitting on his lap with her legs wide open for the camera. He had one hand on her breast and the other around her tummy. I was furious! I told him this was NOT a part of the deal. I did NOT expect any touching let alone for him to be carrying a picture of it in his laptop bag! He doesn't carry pics of ME around! Oh I was mad! His sister told me to let him keep it as memrobilia. I threw it out. No way am I letting my husband keep a picture of a naked woman on his lap! I know how you feel. After my experience I would don't let him go if it's going to hurt your feelings. If I had it to do over again I would have put my foot down and said no strip club or no wedding, take your pick. Doesn't matter if he gets upset over it. He'll get over it. Sorry that was long. But I know how you're feeling.

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A strip club? Strippers are not prostitutes. The men aren't allowed to touch the girls. Tell him you don't want him to go. I wouldn't like it either honestly. I don't know. If he respects you he won't go, but he could sneak behind your back.

It is only my opinion

what do you think is going to happen at the strip club??? he'll watch women stripping... that's all... there are more things happen at strip clubs for women, than at the ones for men... MUCH MORE!!! let him have some fun, and stop being an insecure, jealous woman!!!

Forlorn Hope - 6 suspensions

A lot of men feel it is what every guy should do, and others feel pressured by their buddies because their friends want to go and they don't want to be labeled "gay" if they aren't interested in going. They also don't want to be teased about him all ready being on the 'leash" by you. Let him know how you feel and why it would bother you. I had to get into that with my husband before we got married and he respected my wishes. From what I understand strippers are a little more intense for bachelor parties because they know they can make a lot of money. Good luck hun.

Mrs P

We are not having bachelor/bachelorette parties. 1 year into the engagement we argued over it. He wanted to go to a strip club. (I mean I do trust him.) But he finally seen how strong I was about some other girl practically screwing him, And we decided not to. Good Luck.

♥ღ♥ Praying To Be A Mommy ♥ღ♥

You should strip for him and you bang him instead of some odd lady with AIDs. Show him whos boss and throw him onto the couch and start stripping and dancing. Make him call you mama. He will go insane ;). ohh and dont forget to record it and send me a copy =D

Z3R0

if it's this upsetting for you then ask him can he consider doing else. he must take your feelings into account! good luck with it all x

xmas cracker

well, first of all, strippers aren't allowed to touch the men, and men aren't allowed to touch the ladies. Most women have this terrible vision of their guys in a back room having sex with them! Thats not what happens at all. IF they get a lap dance it's in the main room with a bouncer standing right next to them. That may or may not calm your nerves. I personally have no problem with them. I trust my bf enough to know he doesn't care about the strippers. Actually he was at bachelor party this summer and chose to leave before they went there saying why would I pay to look when I can go home and touch for free?! haha. I know at the end of the night he's coming home to me and couldn't care less about the woman on stage. It's certainly not a last nite to be "free" and be allowed to cheat, and do whatever they want, which is something I think most women think! Alot of times its the friends who drag the groom in, thinking it's some kind of rite of passage. If you realy have that much of a problem with it, just tell him you'd rather he not go to the strip club. But remember you have no right to tell him he can't have a bachelor party at all!

fall bride

bachelor parties are an acient and sacred religion, not letting him have his party at a strip club would be a crime.

Liquid Argis

A friend of mine did this and it was genius!.... She purchased playing cards with those old fashioned pin up girls, put a down payment on a keg and hired a stripper. She actually got to pick the stripper out, so she got to see the girl and her "moves" and knew that this particular stripper was simply "okay" nothing special or extremely hot. She paid the girl a bit extra to not do any lap dances to those with wedding rings. She than told the to the best man (who is supposed to plan the bash) that she had done these things to help him plan a great time for her fiance. Told him it was a gift from her to her man, as a gesture that she wanted him to have a blast AND that you didn't want them spending loads of money and getting drunk (and possibly driving). The best man thought it was pretty cool, and all he had to do was pay for the rest of the keg and pick it up. She also told him to take credit for the stripper- b/c the best man is supposed to do that- and he gladly did. You see- the guys didn't notice or care that the stripper wasn't HOT, they only cared that she was some chick taking off her clothes and they were all together having fun- playing poker, video games and drinking beer. To top it off, she took her girls to a pole dancing class for fun = ) and than before they went to her actual bachellorette party- they popped in on the guys just as the stripper was supposed to be leaving- you know to make sure. The other girlfriends and wives along knew the plan so there was no drama about the stripper. And the girls all felt pretty hot and flirty after a drink and the pole dancing class so their confidence far outshined any memory of the stripper. He'll have the romping good time he wants, and you can have some peace of mind without drama= ) **Do have the stripper over somewhat early, before your fiance has had a chance to have too much to drink. And remember: He doesn't actually want to do this to fondle and oggle women- he wants the traditional good time with his friends. So, whatever happens- don't let it get between you= )

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