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Who has been your favorite bachelor or bachelorette?

Do you think the purpose of Bachelor/Bachelorette parties are stupid and immature?

  • Ok so I was thinking about this for a while.....Im assuming the "purpose" of Bachelor/Bachelorette party is to "party it up" your so called "last day" of being unmarried....right?? Im not really socially conservative or anything (more or less right in the middle), however in my personal opinion.....I feel these kind of parties are somewhat depressing and send a improper messege.....let me explain.... If you are going to get married you should be EXCITED!! You should be looking forward to spending your life with your significant other......why i think Bachelor/Bachelorette parties are depressing is that it is like you are "celebrating" the LAST day you are single.....as if getting married is like going to prison or something....... Also....I dont know about you....but if I were getting married....I would feel UNCOMFORTABLE having strippers giving me lap dances and stuff......does anyone get what I mean??? I would keep thinking about my girl and...i dunno.....it would just be weird....sure drinking would loosen me up but still........the point im trying to make is that I see absolutely NO purpose in these parties......and it has nothing to do with cheating or anything.....im not worrying about that......its just JUVENILLE.....like something a teenager would do or something....i dunno.....your thoughts??

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    Well, first of all, my husband and I had a Jack and Jill (for males and females) bachelor/bachelorette party. We definitely didn't treat it as a "last single night." We treated it as a celebration of us finally getting married. Our best man and maid of honor are also engaged, so that's the reason it ended up being combined. We didn't do a strip club, but we did go to a bar, have drinks, and get pretty wild. We were celebrating our upcoming marriage, NOT a "last single night." I've never been to a bachelorette party where anyone acted like it was a "last single night" and neither has my husband. The last bachelor party he went to, they went GOLFING. Before that, there was a poker night bachelor party going on while his fiancee was home. Not everyone goes to strip clubs for bachelor parties. A lot of girls are not comfortable with their guys at strip clubs. I'm not one of them, but a lot of girls don't like it. Bachelor parties don't have to be disgusting events, and the problem isn't the bachelor party itself, its usually the gross guys involved with planning the gross events. Many guys do something a lot more tasteful.

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I completely agree with you. The whole point of marriage is dedicating your whole person to being with this one person for the rest of your life. Its a major life choice, one you should be excited about, and mature enough to make. If you feel the need to gawk at a naked woman/man to make yourself feel okay with 'going through with it' then you arent ready to be a spouse.

Jessicah

I think bachelor/bachelorette parties are just an excuse for girl and guy nights. My husband went camping for his - no strippers or anything like that.. and we had a girl's night..went to dinner, came back and watched girly movies, again no strippers or anything like that. It's no different than any other girl-only, guy-only trip. It was just a bit of fun to relax before the big day.

mrs. bookworm

I agree, they are unneccesary if done like that. However, i don't think that just getting away on a trip or something with your buddies is anything wrong. As long as you do it with class. The whole stripper thing is immature, but just hanging out with ur buddies and having a good time is harmless. So it all depepnds on the nature of the party i suppose.

riece2

at your bachelor party, you can sit around and play board games. no one said you HAVE to go to strip clubs. Besides it's just a tradition

Super ★

Southern ,Thank you dude my thoughts exactly for over 30 years.

lonewolf

I agree. Party is good, but without the constant 'last night of freedom' thing going on. Marriage seems to be getting some sort of life sentence of a reputation.

chg.

We were married in February. Neither of us had any desire for this type of party. I told him to have one if he wanted. He said no thanks. We just aren't that type of people I guess. To each their own.

melouofs

I agree. You are now an adult, and you would make a great mate for someone because you have intelligence and sensitivity to the feelings of others.

Yam King 7

Men especially have a tendency to not admit they´re happy to get married. If they show that side, it´s being girly or whatever words a guy would use. Instead they act manly and macho, pretending that marriage will be hard and no freedom and that´s why they need to watch a stripper go at them. Most of it is pressure from their friends and they have no power to say no, because they´re friends will laugh at them. Worse would be no having a party at all! So I do believe most of this parties are peer pressure from friends, since they´re the once organizing it and friends take advantage of the fact that they can prepare this big night and have some fun themselves.

Jen

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