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We have been asked to pay for some "Wedding Favors"?

  • My husband & I will be attending a wedding out of town & are paying for our hotel rm. For some very close friend's daughter's wedding on:7/707. I rec'd. a call from the mother of the bride wanting to know; if we would contribute to help the bride(her daughter) & groom pay for half of their "Wedding Favors"? I said yes. I assumed the amt. for us would be nominal ! "These wedding favors/candy" (I believe with their Nm's., wedding dt.,to give to their wedding guest). Obviously cost $350.00 total. Because, I received an e-mail from the bride thanking us (in advance) for the $150.00 & an address where to send the check). - My ?: Is it proper for any bride to request financial assistance from (non-immediate family member's)? The bride is an "Event Planner" for a major restaurant chain. Lastly, how much should I spend on a wedding gift? Esp., since, they did not state..for the wedding favors in lieu of a wedding gift ! my email is: [email protected] Thank you for your reply!

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    Wow. That is something I have never heard of! Well, if you are willing to help them out with such a healthy donation ($150) for something, you absolutely do not have to buy them a wedding gift. Anyone that contributed in my wedding, I was not expecting a gift from. Though my father paid a LOT for the reception, he still gave us a gift, but he's my father and that's different, you know? lol As a non-immediate family member, no this is not normal for them to ask you for help. However, if you are willing to help pay for it, please don't feel the need to give them a gift as well. The friend might just assume that since you are so close, you would want to help, but make sure when you send the check to help out that you put in the card something about how you are happy to give them help with the wedding as a gift for their happy future or something of that nature. So they don't expect a gift and then act silly about it later. P.S. If they DID do that (act silly about not getting a gift), they are just being greedy anyway! I didn't care anything about the gifts at my wedding! I was enjoying the celebration! :) LOL Good luck with this issue. It's definitely unique. :)

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If you decide to help them and pay the $150 I would not give a gift, and just state that helping them with favors is your gift to them. Or, pay what you wish to help them out with, and add another gift if you wish.

Terri

consider the $150 your gift

ann s

To me, that seems like extemely poor taste on the part of the wedding couple. If you pay the $150.00, that should be in lieu of a gift. You should write to Dear Abby and see what she has to say on the subject.

adrianne

The $150 you gave them for the favors is plenty. The bride and groom are the ones responsible for paying for the favors not the guests. Since you not immediate family they should not have came to you with this. Did anyone else contribute to this fund? As an event planner I would think she would know the proper etiquette of such things. I'd skip the present, if you want get a card to congratulate them but you have done more than your part.

Lil's Mommy

I don't think it was right of them to ask their guest to chip in to pay for wedding favors. And since you did there is no reason to give them a wedding gift. I think the 150 dollars was enough. You are not even in the immediate family and they ask you to pay for wedding favors? Very rude.

TJ

Wow, I'd say it's extremely bold of them to ask you to pay for the wedding favors like that. I would buy a nice card and tell them that you wish them well and you hope that they and their guests enjoyed the favors. I would not buy an additional gift. I'm so surprised the way wedding etiquette has gone these days. I'd love to turn back the clock on some of these things. Not that I think the Bride's family should bear the brunt of the cost, but wow... this is a new one!

Marianne D

WOW wow wow wow wow wow. I'm sorry, just can't...wow...help myself....wow wow wow... I think in general, it was in very poor taste to call and ask for money from you, especially, as you said, you are not immediate family. I'm going to upgrade that to tacky. I hope that the bride and groom include a wedding "sponsors" page in their program! Since they have made such a tacky request and have asked for so much money I would consider this their gift. Send the check in their wedding card with a little note congratulating them on their marriage and letting them know to please consider this contribution to the wedding as your gift. And then make sure to pick up any left over favors at the end of the day.

blahdeblah

I'm dumbfounded. Buy them a nice card with your best wishes.

javamama

If you have already helped pay for the favors in the wedding then i see no need to get them anything. Maybe a nice congradulations card but other than that I wouldnt give them anything. If you still want to get them something though, make them up a little basket of stuff from a dollar tree (or some place you can get everything for a dollar) and spend no more than ten dollars.

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