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Wedding planning - how do I do this?

My fiance is TOO into planning the wedding and disagrees w/my choices. How do I get to plan MY wedding?

  • He has opinions on everything, and they usually clash with mine. I thought the GIRL got to plan the wedding!!! In addition, my mother's friend is being VERY VERY bossy about planning the wedding and is threatening to not let me use this beautiful mansion that I want to use (she's arranged for me to use it for free, as opposed to paying the 20K fee)... Help!

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    Well technically its his wedding also, not just yours. If you want a wedding by yourself just throw a party. A wedding is 2 people celebrating their lives together, not a woman making all the decisions and celebrating by herself and just having a man by her side. If you don't want your mothers friends help, I would find a different location. When you ask for someones help once they will continue to help, thinking you need it. Also does the advice have anything to do with the mansion and decor, if so she may know what is allowed and what colors may work best.

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There's this little thing that makes a marriage work...it's called COMPROMISE! You need to learn how to do it with your fiance or this will not be the only problem you have.

oy vey

YOUR wedding? Isn't he getting married too?

Michèle S

It's his wedding too.

~♠♥CJ♥♠~

Its not YOUR wedding alone. There wouldn't be a wedding without a bride AND groom. This is your first opportunity to compromise. Believe me, there will be plenty of things that you get to do all by yourself. Be glad he wants to be involved and work through it!

nova_queen_28

It's his wedding too and you need to compromise. It's not your wedding alone. Also, when we accept favors from people (the use of a mansion in this case), then we give up a portion of our control over the event. Most likely, she is simply following the rules that the venue has in place already. Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!

gr_gal1993

Take a step back. This is not just your wedding and everything is not just about you. He is getting married too. You have to be very careful you don't become a bridezilla, if you haven't done so already. Think about it. If you can't agree or compromise on simple things like this, how is the rest of your marriage going to be? As far as your mother's friend, there's not enough detail to know what is going on and why she would act this way. Good luck.

Greyhound Mama

OK, you need to straighten out your attitude, or you won't be having a wedding at all. 1. The wedding is for both you and the groom...it should reflect both of your tastes, not just yours. It's not just "your day". 2. You are very lucky to have a fiance that has any opinions at all about the wedding...most women have to plan it all by themselves with little if any input from the guy. 3. If this woman is willing to let you use a $20K mansion for free, then she is entitled to have some say in your wedding. If you don't want her involved, then find another venue. It's that simple.

dingding

Marriage is about compromise. If you can't compromise now, you never will, so what's the point in getting married?

MelZ

The wedding is for both of you. It is not just yours.

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