My fiance and I are supposed to get married but wont get involved in the planning, How do I get him involved?

I think you have to pick your battles..... Like if you think he's going to help you with the seating chart, your nuts :) But you could get him involved with other things like the cake testing and the more fun type of planning. The thing is too... when you ask him to help you might not like what he wants.... if you want a traditionally girly girl cake... he might want something different and more modern. Guys for the most part don't care.... but maybe he can help you with the meal choice, liquard list and cake testing.... things he might actually enjoy... but leave the favors, seating arrangements and florist to just yourself. Also I am finding out.. some of the stuff is just easier to do on your own... My FI has tried to suggest doing some really tacky stuff like giving all the groomsmen and bridemaids just cards that explain we are trying to keep the budget low instead of giving them gifts!! LOL- so I have been fighting with him for weeks you can't do that and plus we are having a fancy wedding. So good luck, and don't forget- ask your Mom and your bridemaids to help you. Women love weddings!

If he doesn't want to be involved, I wouldn't pressure him to be. If you really want him to help make some decisions, just tell him how important it is to you that he has some say in some of the decisions. Tell him you want it to be a wedding for you both, rather than just for you. My fiance has been helpful at telling me what he wants and what he doesn't want in our wedding. There are times when I can tell that he doesn't want to talk about it, and that's when I back off. If your fiance doesn't want to have anything to do with planning then that is just something you are going to have to accept. You don't want him getting aggravated at you at this time in your lives together. Weddings shouldn't turn in to something stressful. Try to let him know how you feel and try to understand how he feels about it. Hey, I just noticed that our avatars look like twins! Haha. :) Good luck with your wedding planning.

The planning will only get more complicated the more he is involved. Just give him one or two things to worry about like the limmo, or the church. Something simple for him. If you both don't want to plan your wedding then get a wedding planner. Typically men do not do that much for the wedding.

Giving men options will always be the best way for you to get what you want and still have him be involved. For instance ask him if he wants his groomsmen to wear cumberbums OR a vest. Would he rather have a D.J. OR a band. If he says whatever you want then your other option is to make him a list of everything that he is responsible for and it doesn't get done then he is a dead man.

Good luck. Most men don't like to be involved in wedding planning because it's too girly for him to do. It'll be better for everyone if you take charge and have him pay for things. If he complains, you can tell him that it's his fault for not wanting to participate in the first place. It'd be better anyways, because you'd get to do things your way. If it's too much pressure for you, hire a wedding planner.

He probably just wants it to be your way so you are happy. A LOT of men are like that. Plus, they think it's a girly thing. You can't really change his mind, per se, but you can run your ideas by him to see what he thinks. You could also tell him to pick out his own tux, etc.

Men just dont like doing things like that, the only thing I could get my husband to do was pick out his tux, thats it! So have fun with it, I know its stressfull but make it to be whatever you want, he still loves you just doesnt care about these kind of things.

LOL - Good luck!!!!!

You don't get him involved. You've been dreaming about this day since you were a little girl. Be happy that your man is willing to pay for the wedding of your dreams without changing anything! Girl, involve your mom or your sister or your mother in law, maid of honor....anyone. If he doesn't want to get involved, he will be happy with anything you choose as long as he gets to walk away as your husband.